Same Ole Story - Mis-communication
DH *forgot* to tell me that my SIL called him last night and asked for me to call her.
Yup. He had a hard, long day at work. BUT he did manage to sort out SS's stuff with BM and call the doctor to pay, AND text and call SD. So they are worth interrupting his day, but not me?
Well, my SIL showed up at my door this morning with baby to babysit, just as DH and I were getting ready to head out. And he laughed at me. He claims he was laughing to hide his anger at himself. He claims to be sorry, and I just cannot believe it.
Well, today I was supposed to be my day to have the car, but since I had stay at home and babysit he took it instead. I did send a couple emails to him at work regarding this whole mis-communication and I'm practically pleading with him to simply be more respectful and courteous and timely in his communication with me, to make it a priority to communicate with me respectfully and in a timely manner. He thinks I'm "assaulting him about him and his ex", so I compared it to how he deals with his co-workers instead.
Anyway, he just sent an email to say that someone hit our car and left and the car is badly off. When I asked what I could do to help, he says, "Just keep sending more emails, of how badly I treated you… I still have room for more before I explode!"
I wanted to try to take the bus today and go out. I still don't have a clue about the plan with the kids. He's not communicating with me about what's going to happen with OUR car. I am really really tired of sitting around, wasting my life waiting to be informed. I just told him I won't bother him anymore, and of course, he won't be contacting me - he's pretty good at that.
These are the days I wished I never quit my good job, and moved to a whole new country with no family and friends here and no money of my own and no transportation of my own. I love my kids, I even love my husband, but maybe I should have valued my independence a little bit more.
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Why don't you look for a job
Why don't you look for a job where you are now? Get yourself a car and independence! Living in a totally dependent lifestyle is very very hard and unfair. You have to make to push and get it done though. If not a job then even going back to school, anything so that you aren't just stuck.
I am looking, no luck yet.
I am looking, no luck yet. After being out of the job market for 3 yrs, no one wants to hire me for the work I previously did and I am overqualified for many of the simpler jobs that available and no one wants to hire me for those either. Any job has to be able to cover the cost of daycare for 2 babies and transport; or it's just not worth it financially. I don't know if it makes sense to move back home, where I can get a job much easier because people there know me and know my ability, and daycare is wayy cheaper and I have all my family to help. Sigh.
DH and I both never thought it'd be so difficult for me to get a job, it's really putting a strain on our life in general.
I am so sorry to hear that. I
I am so sorry to hear that. I was so lucky to find my job, I had been a stay at home mom for 4 years, and you are right, no one wanted to hire me. A friend of the family had an opening that was far below what I was expecting but it was something. I have moved up since then but I was just to happy to have something to be able to put on a resume again!