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I've been BANNED!

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Submitted by Stepmom2Ched on Mon, 12/07/2009 - 2:17am

Apparently I have been "Banned" from stepping foot on BM's boyfriend's property. He informed DH that tidbit a couple weeks ago. Apparently *I* said something to offend BM, although when DH asked her WHAT I supposedly said, she refused to answer him and just said I "insulted" her.

So I have racked my noggin TRYING To figure out WHAT the hell this woman is referring to. Obviously, I cannot ASK HER since she never answers her phone and I'm not allowed to come up to the front door anymore to talk to her. Not even wait in the van that would be parked in the driveway. No, there's not a resraining order that's been put out (well, if there is, I've not been served on it.)

I made a decision and informed DH that I am going to take a less active role in his son's life. He will have to step up to the plate to do the mundane things with his son. I'll be happy to support DH in helping him out with things, such as getting the clothes ready for SS7 to wear.

DH didn't understand why I chose to do this. I told him, "You know, it wouldn't surprise me if she accuses me next of abusing him. We both know how she operates, how her mind works, and truthfully, I need to protect MY own reputation. So the less I am involved with him physically, the better." He thought about that and realized, Yeah, BM could very well say something to that effect.

I've stopped riding over there for the drop off/pick up of SS. SS is not happy about this and today he asked me if I was going to come along. I told him "No, I can't hon." When he DOES get around to asking me why I'm not riding along anymore, I will tell him the truth--that BM told daddy I'm not allowed to come there anymore. I'll let HER explain to SS why. Another reason why SS isn't happy is because DH is driving his vehicle for these trips and the CD player doesn't work half the time in his van. (we play kid appropriate CD's for SS when we are in the van instead of the radio.)

If I ever find out WHAT I said to insult BM, I'm tempted to say, "Well, that really wasn't an insult, it was a COMPLIMENT."

GRRRR!!!

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Totalybogus's picture

Submitted by Totalybogus on Mon, 12/07/2009 - 6:04am

She can't dictate where you go unless there is a restraining order or a trespass. If you want to go, just stay in the car.

Angel37's picture

Submitted by Angel37 on Mon, 12/07/2009 - 7:35am

Is it possible for your DH park the car in the street? That way, Mom and her BF can't say a word...there is nothing they can do about it because you're not on their property.

I wouldn't say a thing about the reason you can't go if street parking is not an option because that puts the little guy right in the middle of an adult argument.

“Every truth has two sides; it is as well to look at both, before we commit ourselves to either”~Aesop

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Submitted by Angel72 on Mon, 12/07/2009 - 3:59pm

Yah my dh ex did this as well but i still came for the ride and stayed in the car. I did this for a loooong time...lol. She ws peeved but couldnt do anything about it. but hey she hides int he house now apparetnly for all pick up and drop off. I dont bother going anymore unless i go shopping somehwere.
And i've also banned her from my home too. My sd said 3 months ago, mommy will have to see where we are sleeping...my dh said. No she is not welcome in our home. SHe said i'm not welcome in her home on pick up and angel was not welcome , we are not letting her in either. This is our new home. She is not welcomed. Your mother's actions have earned her this. It was never spoken about ever again.
Let me say this, if she ever comes near this place, i will phone the police.