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Submitted by stepmama.of.a.prince on Fri, 04/01/2011 - 9:25pm

I don't know what to do, I am so lost.
I am twenty years old, SS2, SO22.
I just realized that I am SOOO not ready for kids, especially not for the terrible twos and being one of the many people that pours their love out to SS2 but being the only one who is punished with hitting, biting, pinching, yelling, and no affection.
I love SO22 very VERY much, he is so wonderful to me, and I do believe that he is worth it, I just don't believe that I should be so deeply invested and surrounded by this craziness....a;sjkdf
I don't want to be without him, nor do I want to get away from SS2, I just DON'T KNOW how to get rid of this stress I am feeling.

Advice, please!

EDIT**------------------
----I really appreciate everyone's advice, even if I don't necessarily agree with your opinion, I appreciate the genuine thoughts and comments.
Well, I spoke with SO about how I felt about everything and asked him what he though of it all. I feel so much better.
He said that he has noticed SS slipping further into the 'terrible twos' lately and also admitted that he is overwhelmed. We discussed ways to discipline, and I also spoke with my mother about what she would do in given situations.
After coming home from work today, I was surprised to have SS2 be a complete angel (his old self) and didn't have one tantrum!! (this must have just been the roll of the dice)
we played, laughed, he hit only once or twice, responded well to discipline (RARE!!), and actually gave me tons of hugs and kisses (like his old self!)
SO mentioned that me working so much and being so tired lately has probably taken a toll on mine and SS2's relationship...and I believe it (i've been with SS2 since he was born)
We had a really great night...and I will keep you all updated, but I believe that this was the result of my addiction to work...So this, I will work on...

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Submitted by stepmama.of.a.prince on Sat, 04/02/2011 - 9:26pm

That's a great idea! Smile I'll tell SO about it tonight!

I have been around and babysat SS2 since he was born...and I have been friends with SO since around then as well..

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Submitted by demidee on Sat, 04/02/2011 - 1:59pm

It's hard ! I'm 19 and starting dating my SO a year and a half ago when his daughter was 2. I fell hard for him, and it's taken me a LONG TIME to figure things out. If you really aren't ready for kids, or aren't willing to change your life dramatically, you need to leave no matter how much you love your SO. Terrible two's are hard, but when your so young, it's almost unbearable. I learned to love my "SD" as mine. I worked on my own separate relationship with her, and because she and I are happy together, the three of us are happy as a family. I'm a full time college student, and I met my SO when I left for school away from my family for the first time. I come from a very wealthy family and have always had cooks and maids to take care of me. In the past year and a half I learned not only how to take care of a child, but myself as well. I love it. I love cooking for her, cleaning our house, shopping for my "SD." But I gave up my social life, partying, sororites, just everything. This is the life that I have chosen to live and that I love, but if it isn't for you and you aren't ready for kids, don't let your SS, SO, or yourself suffer. GOOD LUCK!

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Submitted by stepmama.of.a.prince on Sat, 04/02/2011 - 9:28pm

Thank you so much! reading your comment, I was smiling the entire time! Smile I am so glad to have someone that is actually in a very similar situation as mine :)!!