This is proving far more exhausting and difficult than I had anticipated. And i was expecting a lot !! I don't understand how so little can be expected of a person ,and rare consequences do no one any good.
It's beyond difficult to expect a person of one upbringing to raise a child that is a-not their own and b-raise child with none of their own rules or expectations. If you want to allow certain behavior, then the consequences also are your own, not mine.
As my husband, how do i not let the relationship he has with his kid affect our own relationship when i disagree about sooooo. very. many. things?! And it's not universal. Our children are given a hard time when expectations are not met, but the golden child not only gets face time and lots of nurturing and expounding upon the scenario, but has yet to have an actual consequence. 1-2 days without video games for a 15 year old is hardly a consequence.
Take the phone away and now you're getting started.
Puh-lease.

All i can do is cross my fingers and hope the situation is not a reality by the new year. I'm hoping she goes back home and that the other one doesn't want to try and live here as well! I don't know that i can survive a 3rd step attempt.