I have been married to DH for over 10 years now and For at least 8 years he has been saying it'll get better when they're older but Guess what it's not getting better only worse. ss12 is bi-polar and almost uncontrollable but we can not afford residential care and BM hasn't seen or asked about him or his siblings since September. She was(not sure she still is) working as a housekeeper,she has no home of her own,and no vehicle.I can see DH getting over whelmed with him 24/7 but I am helping him every way I can. I don't know what to do I feel beaten and broken everyday. I dread coming home every night!He gets up every morning by 6 am and is going through the other kids room and stealing there things. My 2BD and SD have taken to moving a bed in front of their door so he can't get in. I look forward to the weekend cause I don't have to work but when the weekend comes BM doesn't so there's no break.No one will take him cause he lies and steals and plays with fire if he's not watched constantly.I hate that I feel the way I do about him but I just can't change it he's not my child the love in not there!Right now we are struggling with Christmas! We have bought all the other kids their gifts but I can't bring myself to spend the money on him. Am I being petty?He swears at us everyday,calls my kids Wh03es and b!tche$. He kicks screams,hits and throws things at us when he doesn't get his way. That's not to mention that he's had a DS and iPod and PlayStation and he has broken them all. Some he destroyed just because he was mad! we have bought him some clothes and a cheap game system to keep in the family room I just can't bring myself to buy him the pricey things he wants. Am I wrong because part of me says it's wrong it's Christmas but another part says it's a waste of money.I'm just tired of trying I guess. Any how thanks of "listening"