Sat afternoon I picked up some cards for my children's SM and the Grandmas. I had my all the kids sign the grandma cards and my bios sign the card for their SM and we picked up a nice orchid to give her as well. (We had sent the grandmas flowers earlier in the week). SM has been in the kids's lives for about 5 years but has just recently married their father so I wanted to make sure I recognized her. Plus, I've seen her doing quite a bit for the kids this year and wanted to make sure she knew I appreciated it. SS had already purchased something for his mother. We dropped SS off at 5 to visit his mother.

Mother's Day was quite enjoyable. Heard my angels up early banging around in the kitchen. DD12 was ordering her brothers around (ages 8 and 10) getting them to "help" her make me breakfast. I encouraged DH to go out and help them / make sure they didn't start a fire. They all came back into the room with breakfast, and several cards and gifts they made. It was very sweet.

Grandmas came over for brunch along with my brother and sister. That was nice as well.

Later that night, on our way to pick up SS, we swung by exH's house to drop off the orchid and card for SM. Me and DH waited in the car and we had the kids run in and say Happy Mothers' Day and give her hugs, etc. They both came out to say hi and she was very happy and thankful.

Picked up SS. Not a single wish of happy mother's day to me - as expected, but it still hurts, you know? (I mean,I'm the one helping him with homework, washing his clothes, making his lunches, driving him to school and on and on. But nope. Not even a mention of the day).

When we were back home exH sent a thank you text and said that SM even had a few tears and that it meant a lot to her. I told him that the kids love her very much and I'm very appreciative of the things she does for them and her commitment to helping him raise our children. He said that was nice to hear.

Then BM sent a text at 7 pm (noted in other blog),even though we have a restraining order that includes no text messages, and it said, "I just checked my email and SS13 has a report due tomorrow. (Yes, he has a similar report due EVERY MONDAY, glad you finally are showing "interest" in SS's education). DH responded asking her not to text him as there is a restraining order in place and he will press charges should she continue to break it. She flailed back with two other messages - one telling him to go ahead and show the courts and SHE'll do the same thing and show how HE breaks the order (BS, but OK, whateve). And the other stating, "I can talk to you about our son" (more BS as the order specifically states that she may ONLY contact him regarding court-ordered visitation".

We ended Mother's Day by filing a police report online regarding BM breaking the order. We were sure to include not only last night's incident, but a few additional choice pieces of evidence of our requesting her to stop and her continuing to break it.

Happy Mothers' Day!