I may jus tkick both of their A*&^
I haven't been on in a while, but it is so wonderful to see all the new faces and the originals! Where to start... My husbands ex has moved into the SAME Subdivision that I/We live in and she ALSO LIVES ON THE SAME FREAKING STREET as me!!!!!!!!! I just found this out a couple of days ago but my dearly beloved ass*&^% husband has known for some time now!! I am so mad that I could punch the both of them. I feel as if I am in a bad episode on the Lifetime Channel. Things have been pretty bad around the home front here with the SS and my husband. it seems taht I am causing to much stress for the SS by asking how shool is going. So in return he calls his mother, and then she calls MY HUSBAND to tell him that I am to stay out of their childrens lifes!! So all shit hit the fan that night and now I am to just stay clear of this child that lives in our house so that I do not cause hime any stress!!! YES my HUSBAND took the side of the EX!!! She came to mu home and told my husband some story that my SS told her and then my HUSBAND. He believed her over me and let her sit in MY living room and both of them called me a liar!! I am so sick of this I could puke. I am lost and have no idea where to turn. No matter what the SS does he never gets in trouble. It is like they reward him for bad behavior. I should have knwon better than to marry a man with kids and a psycho for an ex!!! And then this is the real kicker - he is not even aloud at her house because her newest husband caught him starting fires in their living room!!!!! This happened month ago but we were just told a week ago!!!! PLEASE HELP
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OMG,
Wow. She sat in your living room and called you a liar and you managed to not beat her within a inch of her life? And DH, oh DH would have had a frying pan upside his head. I just met you, but you need a (((((((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))))))!!!
The same street as you? I know, I'm just repeating what you said, but Oh My Lord! I can't imagine ever having to deal with that.
Been there
my SD7 told BM that I ask her what they do on their weekends. So BM writes a nasty note--"Don't ask what we do on our weekends thats OUR biz"
Sorry that when a child comes over I ask them "So how was your weekend?" Oops what fools we are to try and make conversation with kids that enter our homes! This BM seems like a psycho just like my SD BM.
Skids tend to blame SMs for things when they are in trouble with BMs for something--just to get some of the heat off themselves. And skids know that BMs with eat it up--wanting to hate the SMs. Your H just made your SS realize his power in your home--I would take it back ASAP if I were you.
YES THE SAME STREET!! When
YES THE SAME STREET!! When I told my sisternlaw yesterday and showed her where she is living she almost drove us into a street sign!!! And I did get up and walk out of my house to keep from hurting her, but yet when I returned a half hour later she was still sitting on my couch with MY husband talking!! I might not be so mad if he hadn;t looked at me and said that he agreed with her in FRONT OF HER AND with him calling me a liar that almost did me in. And when she left he acted as if nothing was ever said. Being a step mom is so hard, I don't really think that I am cut out for it!!
Wow. Where do these "men" get off??? Who do they think they are!
"To Thine Own Self Be True" William Shakesphere
I'll just bunch yours up with mine...they're all the same cloth.
What the hell-this makes me so mad, just reading it. I can picture my H sitting with SD17, doing the same thing to me. WE ARE THEIR WIVES! SINCE WHEN DOES THAT NOT STAND FOR ANYTHING.
Evidently it stands for nothing, when you're not a first wife. I'm sorry. I think we're all going to suffer some real consequences (physical) later in our lives from the stress of living with these men who treat us as tho we are substandard.
I'm so sorry. What a jerk.
He's known that she lives
He's known that she lives down the street and didn't say anything....
He allowed her into your home, sided with her and joined her in calling you a liar....
AND he expects you to steer clear of SS in your home....
Oh HELL F#&K NO!
He needs to get his head out of his, the ExW's, and SS asses. You need to have a "come to Jesus" talk with your H. This cannot be allowed to go on in your home. Hang in there, and stand your ground! Hugs to you.
Wow I could almost se my H doing that
My H told me to stay clear of SD too - hell no, in MY house, she needs to stay clear of me. I am sorry but of my H's ex was in my house that alone would cause WWIII - I think I would literally go off - and if he EVER agreed with HER against me and especially IN FRONT OF HER - this marriage would be OVER. There is no way I would put up with something like that - I don't care if I had to move to a homeless shelter. I would let BOTH of them know - she would NEVER e allowed in my Home - she would not be allowed to speak to me and I would super glue his privates to his leg while he slept
What????
I would be livid if Dh had kept that from me. I think it's your business that BM has moved down the street from you! I also think it's ridiculous that the boy lives in your house and you, therefore, predominatly care and I assume financially provide for the boy but you are to "stay out of his life"?? How does that work exactly.
And DH takes the ex's side when she is sitting in your house calling you a "liar"..Perhaps you should take DH's and SS belongings and place them on BM's front porch and tell them to go live with HER! Unbelieveable!!!
In a perfect world their would be retroactive abortion capabilities.~ disgusted.
Regardless of the
Regardless of the circumstance, I think it is totally disrespectful that she went into YOUR house. I think if my H pulled that S**T I would probably invite him to leave. Do either of them have any boundaries???
Sounds eerily similar
to how I've been living. My fh and his ex used to live in the house we live in(she didn't want it when she left). They had a rental property where they first lived, just a block or two away (which she got in the divorce). And if that ain't sweet enough, bm lives just a short drive a couple of subdivisions over from us. It's just one cozy, sick little world isn't it?lol
I can soooo relate to your post that I'm literally mad for you. My fh would have done the same to me and kind of has....let bm into our home for months and months while I pleaded to stop. And the kicker for me is that I found out that in July she came to pick up the kids and disciplined them for what had gone on in our home, took their airsoft guns away and grounded them! Hello, it happened in our home while they were with us, so she had no right to do anything, but fh has no balls when it comes to her. I only heard about his second-hand as of last week. All I said was that would not have happned had I been home at the time because bm does not boss me around or control my home!
Anyways, your situation is so icky it makes me sick inside for you. I can imagine how horrible you must feel to be living it.
In all honesty, I don't see it getting better. I don't know how you can bear to live like that, with all the lies and deceit...I'd be homicidal if my fh and bm in the house and they turned on me....nuh uh there'd be hell to pay!
I would be planning my escape from there if I were you...you deservere so much better than to live in a Lifetime movie.
Hugs and good luck!!!
No Way
BM has been allowed to visit in our home on several occasions since SD lives with us, but no way in he!! would she tell me what I am or am not in my own home. Nor would she even try. I guess I'm lucky she does not have that kind of personality.
I would insist, no DEMAND, of your DH that this BM stay out of your home if this is how it's going to be.
"OCD sucks"
Habit and routine have an unbelievable power to destroy.
--Henri de Lubac
Thanks everyone!
Happy New Year! I just wanted to say thank you to all of you for the support in this whole ugly mess that I call my life as a stepmom!! And yes I know that I am about nuts still being in this but I have a brother that I take care and if I leave it would mean that he would loose his home also. When my mother passed away in 2006, I was the only one in my family of 3 more brothers and 2 sisters that would step up and offer to take care of my brtoher who is 45 with CP. It is hard but I am not complaining and well my husband would not let him come live with us but he did let him move into a rental property that he owns. So yes, that part does suck - I have to divide my time between to homes and working 2 jobs. I always feel guilty when my brother is alone because he does not deserve the horrible way he is getting treated by the rest of my family and my husband! It was made clear that he could never live with us and that if I was always going to be as concerned as I am now that maybe that is where I need to be. I even asked my husband to take my brother dinner one night and was told "he is your brother not mine, why should I do it?" So yes I have been working on getting things to where I can make it own my own and have my brother with me. It is a slow process but I have a saying that I would like to share with everyone: You can either be unhappy with someone or unhappy alone and I am choosing alone! If you are going to be unhappy why be that way while putting up with someone elses crap!!! All of you are part of my mental survival guide and I thank you!
Good for you
Of course that is completely unacceptable!!!!!!!!!! I hope you can get out of this, and if your DH would, let you and your brother live in the rental while you sort things out. There is no way that beyotch should be allowed in your house and for him to suppport her takes it way too far. This is one case where I bet you would feel tremendous relief to dump him!! if that is how he will be.
p.s. I commend you on helping your brother - my 4 other siblings are similar re. my mom w/alzh. You are a great person and don't deserve this weird, no boundaries crap! Happy New Year honey!!
"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin