BM that is! I am so tired of all her drama and B.S

Let me just give everyone a bit of history, might get a little long, sorry.

For starters, DH and I have been together for 7yrs. SD is 8yrs old so I have been a major part of her life since she can remember. We have pretty much had to fight tooth and nail for visitation of every summer since the beginning and that is all we were allowed because she lived in a different state with BM and we just couldn't afford to travel long distance that often. We did however make a few visits a year other than her coming here for the summer. Anyways, last May BM and her FDH skipped the state they were in and decided they were going to a different state wayyyyy farther away so that FDH could avoid paying child support on 3 of his 8 children. We had to file all kinds of motions and restraining orders to keep her in OUR state once they arrived here temporarily. After going to court and the judge ordering her to stay in the state with SD8 and we FINALLY got BM to sign and agree to a Parenting Plan last Aug. (2011). Since she now resides in the same state, we have SD8 two weeekends a month, 3 months of the Summer and every other Holiday and Birthday. BM signed and agreed to the Parenting Plan before it went to court.... she did not dispute it and the judge signed off on it. We have had nothing but issues since. BM seems to think that we should be willing to forgo our time with SD8 to accommodate whatever it is BM has going on regardless of the agreement in the Parenting Plan. That is not fair to us or to SD8 because she loves and looks forward to her visits with us. Just today, BM texts me (because she refuses to talk to me, in 7 yrs I have had maybe 10 words with the woman) to ask me if we will bring SD8 for her holiday visit (4th of July) two days early so that it is EASIER for BM because that is her day off. Then insists that we allow her to keep her until the following Monday because that is what we agreed to. Um.... no we didn't. If she would READ her Parenting Plan she would know. Oh yeah, she doesn't HAVE IT. She lost them, AGAIN. She thinks we should give her copies of the Parenting Plan for a 2nd time because she thinks we are lying. Btw, the court sent her a certified copy and we hand delivered a copy to her once already because she supposedly lost the courts copy. Why is it our responsibility to get her the papers again? I refuse, it is not my issue any longer.... we already did our good deed once. I am not running all over town to get copies together to mail to her. Anyways, she wants her for a full week regardless of what we have going on here at our house. I had to take the day off to drive her to drop her off on the scheduled day and I am using my one day off this week to go back and pick her up at the scheduled time. I can not take any more time off. My DH works and so do I, we can not afford to take a bunch of time off to make things EASIER for this crackpot. ACK! I am so irritated, I am seeing red. This is only one of god only knows how many times we have gone through this with this woman.

Also, BM "says" she took SD8 to the doctor before she came for the summer at the beginning of the month. SD8 had a really bad cough and was having migraines, etc. "The doctor said it was just a bad cold and nothing to be worried about". BM was giving her some homeopathic medicine at home, which did nothing for SD8. Well, it's been almost month and she is still sick. DH and I have tried everything under the sun to try and get her well and it just keeps getting worse. We tried Antihistamines, Decongestants, her inhaler.... and nothing helped. DH and I took SD8 to the doctor again today. She has horrible allergies, problems breathing, stuffed up nose, a dry cough and double ear infection. This is the 3rd time we have taken her in within the last year and this is the same exact diagnosis. BM doesn't think SD8 has allergies so she has never had her checked and will NOT follow up with the medications. We have an another appt to go see an Allergist in a few weeks and we hope to get to the bottom of her illness. Not that I think it will do any good because BM doesn't pay attention to anything or follow up on anything. Heaven forbid she go in to be seen, BM might just have to pay her 50% of the uncovered costs. UGH! I am so pissed..... and irritated. I just needed to vent. DH is stuck in the middle of it all and I don't want to put anymore on his shoulders than I have to. I wish we would have taken her for full custody in the beginning, then this wouldn't be happening. *sigh* :O