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BM Refused Safety Plan and no show to GAL

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Submitted by spittenfire on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 8:08am

Well apparently the childrens service worker offered BM a safety plan temporarily placing SS with DH while they "get her some help" but she refused. Even when she was told this would mean that they would persue a court order to have him legally removed and placed with DH....she still refused!! Then her lawyer refused to make her abide by the ordered visitation day, stated that she would stick to the alternate agreed to date. Well so when my DH texted her on the "agreed to day" she responded with ss has appointment your lawyer should have made you aware. That it would have to be rescheduled.....right, like so many other days that were to be rescheduled......and we have no recourse because we dont have a court order. GRRRRR. Then our lawyer text last night asking if we had talked to SS......because apparently BM and SS was a no show for the appointment they had with the GAL!! She never called and never answered or returned the GAL calls. This woman is on a downward spiral, lets hope we can get SS out before the crash Sad

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Submitted by overworkedmom on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 8:15am

This whole thing is so crazy. I am praying that DCFS just shows up and yanks him for you guys!!

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Submitted by spittenfire on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 9:09am

I honestly think she has had a mental break. I think she lives in a totally different reality!! We literally wonder sometimes if we are the ones going crazy!!

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Submitted by spittenfire on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 10:12am

Oh her lawyer apparently allowed her to outright refuse to follow the order. He is the one that sent the letter to our lawyer refusing! Poor guy probably doesnt give a flying duck what happens.....he will never get paid.....he knows she is going to lose in the end....and I am betting her motion for us to pay her attorney fees wont fly either, esp since we motioned for her to pay ours since we had to file a motion of contempt for relocating a child without the proper procedure.

And nothing that comes out of her mouth is to be believed.....ever. I remember when he first filed for divorce she told him she had stage 5 cervical cancer :? There is no stage 5 cancer of any sort!

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Submitted by spittenfire on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 10:04am

Since there is no evidence of an immediate danger to SS then they cant just take him. They have a Juvenile officer assigned to the case now and he does his thing to get the Court order to take him into custody and then they will place SS in DH care. We have already filed through the family courts for a motion for emergency custody, etc etc, that motion is to be heard on the 29th....not sure what will happen if anything that day? DFS cant do anything about her not showing to the GAL appointment. They do not become involved in the custody dispute....they only deal with the circumstances of the child and if they are safe. It is not a very quick process if there is not outright physical or sexual abuse.

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Submitted by kathc on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 9:56am

I can't believe children's services hasn't already taken him out of her home, especially after her refusing visitation and then not showing up with him for the meeting with the GAL like she was supposed to! I'd be burning up their phone lines demanding that they take action immediately and having your lawyer contact them to know that they will be held liable for anything that happens to SS while they are allowing him to stay with BM even though they already have "asked" her to let them take him and she refused. They shouldn't be asking her, they should be following through.