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Halfsie On Skid Car

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Submitted by Sparkl3s on Tue, 01/12/2021 - 11:40am

In true BM fashion BM voluntold (yes volunteered and told) DH that he would be going halfsie on a used vehicle for skids bday. My DH said I think we can make it work (after checking with me) but he also thought he would be involved in the car buying process. Haha! BM and MR.BM found a car on their own and told my DH after it was purchased. DH is the most mechanically inclined out of the bunch and let her know that year of vehicle she chose was known to have lots of issues.

BM’s SK’s BM

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Submitted by Sparkl3s on Fri, 10/02/2020 - 12:54pm

My personal approach to a relationship with BM is none. Mr.Sparkle handles EVERYTHING that has to do with the skids and interaction with BM. I only ask that he discuss dates before committing to pickups. 

I occasionally creep on BM's social media to make sure she isn't plotting a mid country move (again). BM has a BM problem. I know I shouldn't  creep but I secretly get a kick out of seeing that her BM makes her miserable. 

Is BM's SK BM a HCBM (Susan)or is BM (Debbie) unreasonable and upset she isn't being given a "bonus mom" shrine. 
 

BM's SK's BM= Susan

No That’s Not How That Works

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Submitted by Sparkl3s on Tue, 07/28/2020 - 10:11pm

My husband is an extremely intelligent man I promise. Sometimes he says ish that just catches me completely off guard. 
 

Mr. Sparkl3s: I guess when SD turns 18 I'll just keep paying the whole year of child support, until the end 

me: No, you are done the month she turns 18 or when she graduates, whichever event happens later. 

Mr. Sparkl3s: I don't even know the new amount, I have to call the state

Keep Minding My Own Business

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Submitted by Sparkl3s on Tue, 03/10/2020 - 11:41am

Not really looking for advice bc I know I need to continue minding my own damn business but WHEW it's hard. As a fixer/planner it's SOOO hard to mind my own damn business. 

The biggest obstacle I've had to overcome as a stepparent is to learn how to mine my OWN damn business. If it doesn't involve my time or money (separate funds), I force myself not to care.

Silly Hubs

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Submitted by Sparkl3s on Fri, 11/08/2019 - 12:59pm

My hubby woke up in a foul mood this morning. I thought I heard him kick the dog bowl and get mad last night but I was trying to keep little man asleep. I didn't even notice he went to bed mad at me. 
 

Aparently he knocked over a glass of water I left on the counter on our new hardwood floors. He ranted for a couple of minutes before I said "so you are mad at me because you knocked over a glass of water on the floor", he kind of grumbled and changed his tune/subject. 
 

BM Meets Closed Door

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Submitted by Sparkl3s on Tue, 10/15/2019 - 10:28pm

Another installment of why I am no contact with BM. 
 

I used to read stories on here and think no way are these BMs are that crazy or lack normal obvious boundaries. 
 

Kid exchanges should be easypeasy right? After all skid has a cell phone. I was wrong, so wrong...  BM was picking the kids up from our house while hubby was at a class. I opened the door so I could look out through the screen door to see BM coming. 
 

Hairgate

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Submitted by Sparkl3s on Mon, 10/14/2019 - 10:57pm

*edit* This did happen years ago but it one of the reason I am no contact with BM. 

My hubby's daughter has beautiful curly hair it is very time thick and luscious. She has been left to her own devices as far as styling her hair since I've met her when she was seven years old. She has so much hair that she was unable to put it in a ponytail without help. I get it 4B hair is tough to manage and the products that work are expensive.