Why does my anxiety soar on skid days??
Whenever it is our day to get SD back, I get depressed and extremely anxious. Even sick to my stomach over it. It isn't that she is soooo bad. She is annoying at times because she wants to play with me and her Daddy 24/7 but other than that she really isn't a bad kid. Why do I always feel this way though???? UGH! And if the exchange involves seeing BM..forget about it.
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in my case, the anxiety soars
in my case, the anxiety soars b/c skids suck and ruin EVERYTHING!! not to mention the sight of their faces and the sounds of their voices make me sick! :sick:
btw ~ seems to get worse with time.... i'm trying to make it until the hit 18 and move on, but the stories of the skads send a chill down my spine.
agree with Starfish, I've
agree with Starfish, I've found that it only gets worse with time and after I had our BS1 it got WAYYYYY worse. I don't hate the skids, but just don't want them around period. I literally get sick to my stomach while driving home on a night that I know the skids are going to be there. I get into a funky, foul ass mood and it doesn't go away until they leave.
My skids aren't really bad either, but to me they are like guests that I didn't invite, but have to cater to, who I can't tell to leave when I've had enough.
I'm with you completely! When
I'm with you completely! When I got pregnant with BS it really got worse...just a cranky attitude every day that we would have the skids. I think part of it might become alleviated soon because our schedule is going to change to a 5 days on-9 days off schedule. It's frustrating having the skids one day here, one day there, it's so random and stressful and chaotic for all of us.
You probably feel this way
You probably feel this way because:
She’s not your child
She is probably attention seeking and has not figured out how to self entertain
The dynamic in the home changes as soon as she arrives – from couple centric to skid centric.
You have to share your SO with her.
And I usually say this as well. I love my niece and nephew, but I sure as heck wouldn’t want them around EOWE either.
You're right...SD8 has NOT
You're right...SD8 has NOT figured out how to self entertain and I am not sure she ever will. She will watch tv in her room on her own for maybe 15 minutes MAX. Yesterday evening when my hubby and I were changing into our nightclothes with out bedroom door shut, SD knocked on it 3 times in a matter of 5 minutes. "Daddy look what I found in my room. Daddy I need your help. Daddy look at this." DADDY DADDY DADDY!!! ARGH!!!
I get the same feeling,
I get the same feeling, starting several days before we are supposed to be with SD7. I think my issue mainly revolves around the fear of what BM might try to pull, because there is always some bullshit that we have to deal with. I really love my SD and she and I get along great. It is a different dynamic when she is around because it has been such a long and stressful road just to be able to have visitation with her.
For me it was because SO acts
For me it was because SO acts different. Ignore or forget to consider my feelings or include me. He's gotten better, but he still has work to do.
Since I've started correcting him, the anxiety has gotten way better. Its a control thing. I feel a loss of control
I feel the same way as well,
I feel the same way as well, and I like my sk's. They are good kids but last weekend I felt like I couldnt breathe all weekend long the stress was so much. Seriously thinking I need medication to help me with this. I am glad I'm not the only one to feel like this.
If it is a day I know I have
If it is a day I know I have to pick SD up from MIL after work, I stress.. all.day.long. Or if we get SD back on a Sunday, I can't even enjoy my Saturday because I am too busy sulking about how SD is coming the next day. I really resent having to live my life in such a manner.
Exactly!!! These skids just
Exactly!!! These skids just can't seem to play by themselves, not even a minute. It's Daddy this, daddy that..O...M...G....sometimes I want to pull my hair out! They have no respect for the house either. They make a mess, waste my food and waste my energy. It's a need for constant attention! They make up crazy stories so we can say "wow, really?" Ugh, it gets so old.
My SD likes to tell stories
My SD likes to tell stories too so she can get the "Great job" response. She also loves to start out a sentence by saying "You're welcome for...." And it's usually not something we necessarily would say "Thank you" for but my Hubby does anyways. ? lol..I have to laugh sometimes....
If it weren't for me, DH
If it weren't for me, DH wouldn't be strict about bedtime. SD is on summer vacation and she thinks she should be able to stay up late...like 10:30-11 late. I don't think so. School night bed time is 8:30 and if it were up to me I would say 9:00 summer bedtime but I compromised with the 9:30. I like to be in bed by 10:30 so that leaves us a whole 1 hour of alone time on week nights.