Is it safe to assume.....remember what that makes u and me!
Where to begin...> DRAMA, DRAMA, DRAMA!
So somehow I feel that I am reliving that horrible after-school movie they used to have on 'bk in the day'! LOL! I've been transported bk to high school, when the bullies ruled the school.
My bully is my ss10's narcissistic BM mom. She uses my ss10 as a pawn in her little games and yanks him away f/anyone like he's property! I feel like ss10 is scared of her, and in a way we (i.e. DH,BM's mom, Bm's sister's, and me lately) are terrified of her. She takes everything out on my ss10 and uses guilt to get her way, along w/a little threating sprinkled in. And b/c of my ss10, we put up w/it!
*---She recently snatched him up away f/her mom's house b/c she claims we are trying to take ss10 away f/her in court. We have clearly stated we want our fair share of time, especially since he is only w/BM maybe 5dys. out of a month. The rest of the time he is at grandma's, who btw, has pretty much raised him since BM left DH and took ss10 w/her 1000miles away.
*---She refuses to let ss10 stay w/me unless DH is home, even demanding I take him to the bus stop at grandma's even when ss10 wants me to drive him to school (which is on the way to grandma's)!
*---I have a younger BS4 w/DH and ss10 grandma treats him like her own, therefore infuriating BM. Since moving here 3months ago, I have babysat for BM's sister's kids (she did pay me).
*---She had a hissy-fit at Valentine's b/c she found out ss10 had made out 2 extra cards for me and DH and one for is little brother, BM's mom even included a Valentine goody bag for my BS4.
She went on and on about the disrespect her family was giving her b/c they associate w/me and DH and 'allow' our BS4 to play w/her sister's children! :puzzled: Is she for real?
They have been divorced for almost 2yrs now, we have been married since 10/08, when is enough going to be enough! I really think she needs to take the cross off of her bk and build a f'ing bridge and get the f*** over it! :evil:
*----And the icing on the cake, I go out to my shiny almost new, pearl white mini-van.... and on the side, in bold-black sharpie letters, it reads..>FAT B****<
Okay, so technically, I can't prove she did this. But here's the deal, I do not know a soul in this state! I keep to myself at my apt. and we live in a very quiet, safe part of town. And furthermore, if it was random, how would they know that I am "fluffy"!!! LOL! 
Yes, I am plus-size, but I love myself so I try not to think of this as a negative attribute!
We did call the police and get the incident on file, but asked them not to question her, this would only stir the hornet's nest. But where do I draw the line? After all, it is just property, I don't know for sure it was her? I just keep telling myself to just get through the next 8yrs. and try my best for DH and ss10.
She is just impossible to deal w/sometimes though! She seems to get away w/everything she does!! AHHHHHH!
Taking suggestions and experiences...>any taker's on this one? 
LOL!
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Mmm...i would continue what
Mmm...i would continue what you are doing. Be great friends with her sister. Keep grandama great company! And let her stew in her own jealousy..
and while you are doing that, Place a small camera or 2 around your property, so when she does vandalize your van or has paid somone and they confess to it, the police can throw her sorry jealous Baboon butt in jail!.
Will it drive her crazy...yah...but like you said its only property BUT if she sets your house on fire next time, i dont think you'll like it.
Get cams for your property for protection and to catch her in the act.
Her own sister and mother should also give her a real tell off.
lol..just thought of something.....maybe ( since you know , no one in the neighbourhood, cause your new...) place a pic of her up in several places and have neighbourhood watch against her! lol...
I went to the grocery store and there was a picture posted up there and on several polls of a man . The letter stated that the man should never adopt any cats, cause he tortures them....wierd...but heck...
THis bm sounds awfully off her rockers. You said she left dh, why?
HAs she accused you of being the other woman or does she have severe mental issues? Cause if she does, your ss10 should be no where near his mother alone. He should be with somone other than her at all times.
Honestly , she sounds unstable.
Well.. . . Angel w/o getting
Well.. . . Angel w/o getting too long winded, from the beginning of their marriage there have been major issues. And this has come f/both DH's family and BM's family. She always treated DH like he owed her something and rarely cared what he thought. This apparently went on for years, and DH finally stood up to her.
He had a great job opportunity to be a part of a start-up plant in another state, great for his career and their future. SS10 was only 3 at the time, and she was a SAHM. She didn't want to move, but he fought his ground b/c he thought maybe a new state and a fresh start would help them. She agreed if she got a new house, which he did and really took on more than he could handle. So he was working 60+ hrs, she hated being there, yadda,yadda, ya know how it goes? She started actually getting physical and after several bad episodes, my DH moved out to a hotel---he came bk and she had pkd the van and went home. I can verify all of this btwn mutual people and his and hers family. He has also admitted, at the end he absoulutely quit trying, just stayed at work.
So, that's where I came in. We met a couple of months after she moved out of state. I have also verified this timeline w/BM's mom. Grandma is not mad at DH b/c she believes people 'screw up', but she knows they were both at fault. She cares about what happens now w/ss10 and I agree.
But in BM's mind she has called me the other woman and my BS4 a "Bas****", which made me cut off all contact w/her. She fought the divorce every step of the way, she even lied to her own lawyer about being served papers. He later found this out to be true, and it became final w/out her consent. Now what we are working out is ss10 cs and visitation rights, DH already got joint custody but she refused to send ss10 out of state for visitation.
So now we are here 1000miles away f/my former home, so that she can't argue about sending him out of state, and now we have stirred up the nest! :evil:
I also recently found out through her sister that she was trying to stay married to DH for 10yrs to receive aliimony payments! She already gets 800+ a month and dsn't even keep her son!
Court is again in March and hopefully we can get a Guardian Ad Litem, to talk to all of us, ss10, grandma, DH (someone has to realize how she is)! She's so different when it comes to court and relaying her side, etc. We just can't catch her in the acts, it's all "she sd, he sd"!
She sounds extremely
She sounds extremely unstable. A lot like our bm but she doesn't have custody. For good reason. I might talk to grandma and see what she thinks, but def Angel is right. If things ever go to court, you are better off with them on your side. Keep a record of how much time ss spends a Grandma's. Even if it is just his account. Write it down in a planner or calandar. Of she is spending that little time with ss you might have a good chance for custody.