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I dug myself a hole and can't fill it back up

smurfy1smile's picture

So I think I way to nice of a person. I am the neighbor who will take in your mail while you are away. I am the friend who will drop everything if you need a shoulder to cry on or whatever. I am the mom who works part-time with a flexible schedule so I can do stuff with my kids and not miss school functions. I am the SO who does all of the house cleaning, most of the shoveling, cooking, grocery shopping, cat care including feeding and cat pan duty, kids care for my 3 kids, and on and on and on. Now I think I have created something of a monster in my BF. I am way too nice. I pick up his child for parenting time and BF rarely has to do any of the driving. Its like pulling teeth to get BF to pay me back for gas to transport his child. Since we generally have FSS1 Thursday to Monday, he has to go to daycare in our town on Friday and Monday. Its drop in care so the provider requires payment everyday FSS is in her care. So I have to remind BF to write her a check. There is no way I am paying for this and BF wants me to write the check adn eh will sigh it. Last night, he complained that his finger hurt so he wanted me to write out checks for him. I showed him my raw, cracked hands and made him do it himself. I have to remind BF to pay his child support, pay the mortgage, and pay the car insurance, the only bills he is in charge of. I pay the rest of the bills - electric, gas, food, cable, internet, my cell phone, water, sewer, and garbage. I had a migraine yesterday, so I slept most of the day. BF had the balls to wake me up to care for FSS so he could take a nap! WTF!!!

I know I am way too nice and BF takes advantage of that fact. A girl friend of mine has invited me to go away for a night for a girls night out. I asked BF about it and he said you just went. WHAT? The last time I spent the night away from home, without BF and/or kids was almost a year ago. And I came home to a trashed house, that I spent extra time cleaning before I left. BF said he would do dished if we had a dishwasher. Well, we have had one for well over a month and I have yet to se BF put anything in it. I am going away for a night but I will make sure it is a weekend we have FSS so BF has to take care of him all by himself with no breaks and the other kids will be gone too.

Sorry = needed to vent! I am missing a full nights sleep.

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smurfy1smile's picture

You are super funny. Marry him = no way. Yes, I love him and his family but love is not enough in my book.

Yes, he does take his responsiblities way too lightly and I am working on him with some success.

MSloan86's picture

I read some of these vents and wonder why some BFs are not kicked to the curb. I know men can be lazy some times... Wink But only if you ladies let us. Biggrin