Just wondering how others would have handled this situation. For past 6 years have had little to no relationship with SS18. I created a Facebook a year ago SS18 wrote a message letting me know how he truly felt about me. Called me slut, cunt, bitch. Blamed me for "losing" his father. DH never confronted him about it. SS just stayed away. Six months later, saw him at a wedding in July I think he was drinking a little bit. When he saw DH and I, to my surpise, he came up to us and said "don't worry, I will come visit soon" and gave us both hugs and walked away :? . The rest of the evening he didn't say anything else to us. Didn't hear from him until this past September....when he asked for help for school clothes. Never heard from him again. Until yesterday.....here's the situation. We were dropping off SS14 and SS13, SS18 is standing outside...sees us comes up to car. First, he says "Hi" only to DH. Then he ask DH "what are you doing tomorrow" DH tells him he has to work. SS says "oh did you hear about Mom?...she has been sick from her gallbladder and needs surgery, and is off work for awhile" DH just said "no I didn't know" SS says "okay you gotta work? talk to you later" Why would he start a converstation with DH about BM, when he knows they didn't even speak to each other!! I didn't say a word. But I was boiling inside. I wanted to say something like "what do we care" or "why are you telling us?" Would any if you had said anything?? When we drove away I told DH how I felt. I asked "why did he feel the need to ask you...did you hear about Mom?" DH said "he knows how to start shit don't let him get to you" but I think if just one time I speak up....he will think twice about pushing my buttons.