For starters I am not surprised by this but I feel like I need to blog about it in order to get it out of my head. FDH and I got engaged in Oct. I knew that BM would find out and it probably would make her happy. Because even though she has re-married, FDH wasn't supposed to find any one else let alone some one that is as she put it 'nothing like her'

Now we didn't tell BM but her new Husband works with FDH and when the guys at work found out they were razing FDH in front of BM's husband, joking that he must not have learned his lesson the first time. So we are pretty sure that she knows now. Since finding out BM has been a real witch and playing this really stupid 'power/mind' game with FDH. Now she is mad at him/us because we refuse to play.

I will attempt to explain how this game works okay, I have seen it a million times.

You take 2 woman - wife, fiance, girlfriend, ex, mother, mother-in-law, sister, daughter, baby momma, ect. i think you will find any combination will work. Then you take one guy and you put him in the middle. Each woman then tries to prove that she has more power/control/influence over the man in the middle. Sad part is NO ONE EVER WINS!

In our case BM started by flipped out about something that she has known about for at least weeks. We let SS6 walk to his friends house 'by myself'. She proceed to inform us that he was too little and there were sex offenders within a mile of our house. She told us that we couldn't do that any more and that SS6 wasn't allowed at the kids house because it wasn't a very nice house.

FDH was angry and wanted to explain to her that he didn't walk 'alone' we watched him and made sure he got there and back we just didn't take him by the hand and deliver him there. We let him think he had done it by himself, on a side note there are about 4 other little kids around his age that walk around alone. But I suggested to him that he NOT engage her. She can think whatever she wants and she can voice her concern but she can not tell FDH what we can and can not do on HIS weeks with out a court order. It's just like all the stupid stuff that BM does that we can't correct. So he ignored her.

Next was parent teacher conferences. FDH went with out me but took SS6, BM openly displayed her angry toward FDH and belittled SS6 to the teacher, which is why she was also angry that SS6 was there. BUT BM will not say anything to FDH in front of the kids so she couldn't yell at him.

Then there was me Baby sitting for BM - yeah she no longer talks to me and I don't talk to her. I just say bye to SS6. She has congratulated me either.

To prove a point I guess BM then txt'ed FDH to see if he wanted the boys on thanksgiving - the CO says it's a shared holiday but FDH has never had them because he goes hunting instead and the Boys are too young to hunt. My family had a small dinner but I didn't want to take them by myself and it's an hour away. So FDH told her if she wanted him to take them it had to be all day. BM fired back with they were HER kids and it was HER week, there was no way that he was taking them away from her. FDH just said 'okay, have a happy thanksgiving'. leaving us wondering why she even asked. (will add to this later)

Not to be left out of course BM called FDH again to comment on SS4. She said that he went to put him on the potty to go #2 and she took off crying. SS6 informed her that SS4 had an accident at our house and we grounded him. I know how dare we, right? She said that we traumatized him and basically told us that we couldn't ground him. FDH was just like 'yeah ok.' the story behind the grounding was the time before when we had him he went fine - no issues, when we got him back from BM he had 2 accidents and refused to go in the potty. He also threw his under wear away, leading us to think BM still uses pull-ups. SS4 KNOWS that he messed up so after the first accident we took away his tv, after the second he got grounded. At least we didn't spank him - god knows I wanted to.

FDH nicely informed her that we were planning to take the boys out of state to see my family to which BM said as long as it didn't affect her then she didn't care. Which is doesn't, we planned it that way but after being a witch about it she then turned around and asked if she could have them on our weekend for a few hours to go to her husband's family's thing. We are considering it but we are waiting on more info. She wasn't very specific.

The game is still on of course.

I told FDH last night why she was being like that. She is trying to start a fight/argument during which she would flip it to some how be about me and how I am ruining everything, probably with a list of a million reason why he should marry me. The more he refuses to play this stupid game the madder she seems to be getting and I think it's funny.

Why bother? Because I think that her life isn't going as nicely as she would like us to believe. I think her and her new husband are having issues, I haven't seen him since about a month after the wedding. He is never home and doesn't come to get the kids for her any more. I think he new job is harder than she thought it would be, they actually want her to WORK. And her 'special needs' child is getting less 'special', they may take away his 'special' help as early as next year because he doesn't seem to need it.

Me on the other hand - I am doing well. At least I am happy.

Am I wrong for not wanting to play her stupid game?