seriously this just happened
BM txt'ed FDH at work asking if he was going to the doc appt. tomorrow and saying that she KNEW that he didn't ask off.
He txt'ed her back right away and asked her how she KNEW that - when it wasn't true. Where BM got them from is fairly clear, her husband work at the same place as FDH. I am sure he was asking around but no way to know who told him or what they told him.
FDH didn't put in for it because his boss said they were really busy and really needed him. But he DID ask for the day off it just didn't get approved - all of which was done verbally so there is no paper trail. BM had already said she was taking SS4 and FDH took him by himself last year so he didn't see the issue in her going alone. FDH even went as far as to contact the Doctor's office and tell them the situation and ask if it would be okay if he called them tomorrow and found out from them how it went and answer questions.
I am so mad right now but not just at BM. Their CO contains a restraining order! You can't tell me that having her husband spy on him at work and then going off on him about it isn't 'interfering with his personal liberties'. It's got to be some form of harassment or stalking at the very least. FDH wants to find out who said something to Hubby but I say cut the snake off at the head. He needs to just tell BM to knock it off, and that it's illegal. I plan to document this, FDH still has the txt.
Am I over reacting? I know it's not my place but I really think FDH needs to take a stand or she will walk all over him for the rest of our lives. Ugh.
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At the very least you dh can
At the very least you dh can talk to his boss about her dh 'spying' that should stop that! }:)
sadly it's a small company,
sadly it's a small company, so when BM started dating her current DH. They had a company meeting telling everyone to be nice to BM's DH. They were worried about hazing I guess. But I think it goes both ways, they shouldn't let him spy.
that is why i said have dh
that is why i said have dh talk to his boss in private...
Should I be concerned that
Should I be concerned that FDH continues to let BM bully him and engage in 'illegal' activity? She also forged his signature on their divorce which he let slide, and threatened me at least once that I know of with physical violence.
Absoltuely have your DH talk
Absoltuely have your DH talk to his boss. Who has asked for what days off is no one's business but the person requesting the time & the person who approves/declines it.
If a supervisor is approached by anyone making such an inquiry, the answer should be a simple, "That's none of your business".
But yes, have your DH talk with his boss & explain the situation & request that he not discuss your DH's requests for time off or reasons for time off with the other employees there.
yeah he is going to talk to
yeah he is going to talk to him - the stranger thing is that his boss - the guy that he asked for the time of with - wasn't at work this week (FDH asked him last week). So we think BM's DH asked the lady in the office (whom FDH is also going to say something to about saying things to other people) But she wouldn't have known the correct answer any way because she isn't the one the handles requests for time off. She would have only know if FDH had been granted time off because she does dispatch.
UGh it's seriously so stupid.