he finally sees through BM's BS and staring to understand how this system works.

The other day he finally talked to the last of the 3 docs, and new reports are being sent out. While talking to this one he said that BM's said she would set up the next appointment and the doc told him that she would see to it that BM did. FYI I don't think this doc thought too much of BM.

Since it's 50/50 custody (all around) He knows that he can't do anything with out BM 'consent' but that she can't do anything with out him either and if she does it's worth noting. But getting consent isn't as hard when you ask her IN FRONT OF other people because she wants to appear to be a super mom. And instead of just letting BM say - "oh I'll set it up" (then she doesn't) he has been following up with other people and letting them and her know that he is following up.

Of course she will never change and continues to lie but at least other people are starting to see that she is a little shady - Docs and teachers. There is also no harm is saying that "this is what I want but... I have to talk to BM." It lets people know what he feels.

Of course the constant calling and fact checking is a lot of work but it seems to be paying off, SS4 is going to be getting the help he needs and SS6 is our next challenge, he has a check up in May. And FDH has s list of concerns and will be going - or contacting the doctor to insure his concerns are addressed. (Last year he told BM and she 'glazed' over them)

I got a call from FDH today and I was so happy that he figured it out on his own this time. BM txt'ed him to tell him that the school emailed her a flyer and she wanted to know if she should FWD it to him or just print it out... Why that is shady. FDH just got e-mail for the first time so that the teachers could e-mail him (because BM claimed they e-mail her all the time and said the teacher weren't 'comfortable' e-mailing me) But we didn't give the e-mail address to BM (she doesn't need to e-mail him - she would totally abuse it. Calling and txting are fine/preferred.) It's also worth noting that both teachers responded to FDH's first email and it's spring break. We don't think there is a flyer - she just wants his e-mail.