Everyone gather around I have a story to tell you
Ok, so this is not a story but a REAL LIFE situation and Oh, how I WISH this was make believe! Here it goes:
Yesterday my family sits down for dinner, I noticed earlier that SS had a form to sign up for band on the counter for us to see and he either needs to rent or purchase his instruament. DH and I came to the conclusion if he wanted to sign up for band that it was fine but he needs to talk to BM about the instruament because we will not provide that for him. He looked a little sad and said ok.
Then he said well maybe I can just pay for it, because I made money at BM yard sale this weekend. Then I said well maybe BM can pay for it with HER yard sale money. Then he said that he thinks that he made more than BM because she had to leave early because the POLICE came, and both DH and I said, "oh, so did she have to shut the yard sale down or something?" and he said, "no, they came to talk to her and then put her in HAND CUFFS and took her with them in the cop car" By now DH and I are both totally shocked and ask so where were you, and he says inside at the next door neighbors and he says who also does not work (why he threw that in there "not working" I do not know). Then he says, "the next door neighbor asked to borrow my money from the yard sale, to go get BM out of jail" SS says he told her "No you can not use my money!" (BM already owes him tons of money because she uses it all the time because she does not have a job). So DH and I ask where was her husband and he says I do not know but he was gone for a while, and came home later with a 24pk of Beer. Then I ask how long BM was gone and he said until late at night, but BM must of finally gotten a hold of her husband and she called him from the police station with her "one phone call" (how SS knows about the one phone call is very interesting and very sad) because her husband went to go get her and bring her home.
Oh how I wish I was making this up but I am not and keep in mind my SS is only 10 way to much drama I think for a 10yr old! actually for anyone! Now SS is suppose to go back over there this weekend, I told DH I do not think he should go over there til you find out what is going on and he said that the court has told him many times that unless he is getting hurt he has to send him. and he said so he will send him.
What do you all think?
or do you have any suggestions for me?
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Yikes
First of all, if SS is witnessing this, it is considered emotional trauma. mY SD went through the same things, and more and more info will come to light.I promise. Get SS a therapist. It will be the best thing for him. I would also recommend getting him his instrument if at all possible because it will give him something to focus his energy on and will be a form of therapy for him. Although he may not be saying much does not mean that there is not alot going on. Kids tend to be introverted
You may have to send him for
You may have to send him for visitation, but your DH certainly has the right to know by BM was arrested! I would definitely get to the bottom of it. Here in CA, you can go online to Orange County Superior Court and put in under case, the name and birthday of anyone and it will show you all arrests, etc. I know that probably won't be in the system yet, but eventually maybe you can find out that way. Because if it's something regarding drugs, maybe that would give you the amunition you need to keep him away from her.
Get the police report
They are generally public record and if it's anything drug related etc...while SS's in their care then you can file for an immediate hearing (I forget the name of it) and not have to send SS for visitation.
I'd get him the instrument too or rent it if financially feasible
Good luck to you!