You are NOT GMOTY...
I do NOT understand why MIL thinks she's GMOTY...Seriously...
DH has had visitation with SD set in stone for quite a few years, and MIL can NEVER seem to make herself available to spend time with SD...
DH has always been like "eh" with it...and when I came into the picture, I tried to help them (foolish me...). I'd have DH call his mom so SD could talk to her etc...Make sure to invite her over when SD was over, etc...etc...
I SWEAR it's been like pulling teeth...Once she even told DH that she didn't feel like talking to SD...DH swore he'd NEVER call her again to talk to SD and told me to not say a word about it...
And I'm not EVEN getting into SIL who NEVER, EVER calls, and both of them SWEAR they are so close to SD...
So DH decides to take the kids to the movies and says he wants to take MIL also, so she can spend time with the kids...
DH called her and left a message last night...She doesn't return his calls...Earlier in the week, DH called her to see if she'd want to hang out with him and the kids, so the call last night was a reminder...
So he called her again this morning, and got her...He put her on speaker as he was changing DSs diaper, and OMG I wanted him to just hang the damn phone up...
She hemmed and hawed the whole time...First her excuse was that where she was was too far from the theater...DH told her that the theater was probably less than a mile away (it truly is...)...Then she said she wouldn't be ready in time...He called at 11:00...The movie starts at 1:55...
I was like, "Dude...Maybe she just doesn't want to go to the movies...Invite her over, period"...
DH does...
More hemming and hawing...
Seriously...is once every other weekend too hard? Is it too hard to plan to see your grand kids twice a month ESPECIALLY since you say you're in love with them and are so close to them?? If she didn't give a crap and communicated it, I wouldn't care, but she's walking around as if she's the greatest grandmother in the world...
Some people I just want to flush down the damn toilet...
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My mil has only seen my dd9 a
My mil has only seen my dd9 a couple of times this year-last time was approximately 4 months ago for approximately 2 minutes when my dd made a point to go out to the driveway and say hello to her grandmother through her car window-however, she is a wonderful loving parental/grandparental figure and I am a piece of shit. Hmmmm. The woman only lives about 10 minutes away. She does not acknowledge my kids on their birthday nor at christmas. She does acknowledge ss. She doesnt see a problem with this.
I also had a hard time with this as well. I thought all grandparents wanted to spend time with their grandkids, liked spoiling them, etc-I finally just accepted that it really doesnt mean anything to some grandparents-they truly dont care-unless it is convenient for them in some way.
I dont think my mil would have the cajones to try and pretend that she's close with my dd-BUT as I said she doesnt see anything wrong with not speaking to her for months on end or acknowledging anything about her.
Yeah...That was my
Yeah...That was my thought...All parents wanted to spend SOME time with their grand kids...
When she made DH feel like he was bothering her when he tried to engage her with SD, he has been totally turned of from her since...When he got back from the movie, I asked if MIL went, and he said no, but she called him and told him to call her when they got out...I asked him if he did, and he said he didn't feel like it, lol...I guess the fruit doesn't fall too far from the tree?? Maybe, lol...
I'm not used to this because my mom lives 8 hours away, and she calls to talk to DS everyday...Every day...I just don't get it...
My mom got pissy when my
My mom got pissy when my twins were born a few months because my BM (I was adopted by my grandmother because my "sister"/BM was 14 when I was born, didn't find out til last year) was there. She didn't take my calls the whole weekend I was in the hospital and didn't come see them til they were 4 months, for a day and a half. Now she talks about how much she loves them. Even my skids grandma saw them (bearing gifts, even) before she did. Whatever.
Your MIL can think of herself that way all she wants, the kids will decide for themselves,