Last visit with SS4
Well it was supposed to be last visit before school started. Well SS4 didn't want to go with my DH when he went to pick him up. SS4 was crying and said I don't want to go I always get in trouble(not true). So DH said if does not want to come I'm not going force him. Then BM was like now what, how am I supposed to make his b-day party and are you still going take SS4 to the Dr. because I can't I don't have a ride(BM has no car)and BM's new BF/fiance has a car but won't be in town and medicaid will only take the child that has an appt(BM has another child from another man).My DH said I don't know. I'm like just make the party, its not hard to do that with the child with you.
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Why does the 4 year old get
Why does the 4 year old get to decide when and where he goes? I cannot see anything good coming out of that type of parenting.
Yes I know that's what I keep
Yes I know that's what I keep telling my DH, but he don't listen to me. I know I have two boys they don't decide I do that's what being a parent is. DH is slowly learning this but its taking too long
Tell DH that if he lets his 4
Tell DH that if he lets his 4 year old "decide" to do "daddy optional" he'll end up like the biodad I live with.
"GG" has three children under the age of 15 who he no longer sees.
The BM usually trash talks dad should he "dare" to move on and then claim that she knows nothing about why Junior doesn't want to go with dad. The 2nd part of this is that the BM usually treats Junior as a BUDDY and not a parent, so by contrast, any home where the adult calls the shots is distasteful to Junior.
Odds are that the BM is be-friending her child and not parenting SS. So SS sees the contrast and, of course, doesn't like it. What kid would? At the BM's house he has the run of the house and can do/say what he pleases. Then all of a sudden at DAD's house there are rules, bedtimes, proper meals, etc.
DH needs to enforce the visitation and call the BM on any PAS that may be taking place.
We had the same issue when we
We had the same issue when we started picking up SS,who was than 3. He would cry to no end if we dared to take him from "grandmas"- my now MILs. And my MIL would side with the kid too, "o does he have to go??hes already in his pjs. I can bring him tomorrow".
Finally, my husband put his foot down and said no to both his own mother and his son. The first time, my SS cried so hard and for so long that he started vomitting in the car. My husband took him out put him in the house, told him to sit quiet once he was changed, cleaned the vomit filled car seat, got a dry car seat in the car, and put SS right back in the car to go home. I was so proud of him!
Your DH is treading very thin ice. I know my own stepfather got recently started talking to his son again, whos now 16 after 8 years or so because he followed the "he'll see me when he wants to" mantra.
So how do I go about doing
So how do I go about doing that telling my DH this and offend him when I tell him. Also letting DH know when BM is being PAS.I told my DH that BM is probably doing this but he does not belive me. Yes he needs to enforce the visitations, because during the school yr we only have SS4 every other weekend and alturnating hoildays and spring break