Rules need not apply....
Well since Darling ss323 works SO hard at his 10 hour a week job, he seems to think that he needs to sleep till noon when he is not working. My DH and I have set forth the rule that he is to be up, dressed and moving by 10am on the days his sorry ass doesn't work. One reason being since he thinks he is too good to take the bus to work and DH has to get up early to take his sorry ass to work (DH and I work 2nd shift. We get off work at 1am, to bed by 3 and have to get up at 8 to take his ass to work)so WE don't get to sleep in, why in the hell should he. Well since this has been put in place 6 months ago, he's only done it ONCE which was yesterday and that is only because he knew I had to go to the local superstore and he decided I was dragging his ass with me. He knows I like to get up early and sneak out so I don't have to deal with his sorry ass, and low and behold he was up and dressed by 8am. This morning, once again he didn't drag his sorry ass out of bed till 11am and that's only because DH made ME go get his ass up. When I brought it up to DH OF coarse, he didn't want to hear about it and all I do is bitch. He doesn't except this behavious our of our BC's, why in the hell is it acceptable out of this sorry POS? Why does this seem to be a plague among women that we have to deal with this shit? I don't see fathers' out there having the same issues with skids that women have.....ahhh maybe it's because guilt is not something women give into.
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He has an alarm clock....he
He has an alarm clock....he unplugged it to plug in his video game system. This morning I was asked why I keep disappearing into our room. My reply was simple....ss23 gets to disappear and hide on the computer, why can't I? I got attitude. I'm SO SICK of hearing how his bm abused this poor soul (sarcasim) and it's not his fault for being the way he is. How I have NO compassion or empathy. I was a firefighter/paramedic for 13 years. I know how the world works. I'm sick of hearing how I can't hurt poor darling ss23's feelings cause he's so fragile, but yet, I can be tormented everyday. Today I told his sorry ass he does his own laundry from now on, the maid quit.
I always like the idea of
I always like the idea of buying a CD of military music. Marching tunes are best. And at 7:56 you play the CD LOUD outside his bedroom.... Gotta love those brass bands.
As for your DH, BAER! Tell him his son is moving out by the end of summer or you are moving. He needs to cut the umbilical cord. OMG! My kids and s/kids couldn't wait to move out. Not that life here is unbearable. I just will not tolerate that kind of behaviour. I want MY life. I am not putting MY life on hold so some lump of crap can 'find himself'.
Honestly, I don't know why you women put up with it. You are MUCH better than me. I would have an almighty hissy fit on a daily basis until someone moves out. And considering my bedroom 'talents' I doubt DH would let that be me.
Get him a battery powered
Get him a battery powered alarm clock or as oneoffour recommended put your large stereo on a timer and play reveille with the speakers turned against his wall at o-dark:30 AM on full blast. Also let him know that since he is only working 10hrs per week that for 30hrs a week he is your and DHs beck-and-call-boy and will do whatever you tell him to do when you tell him to do it or don't let the door hit him on the ass on his way out ..... for good.
My SS-18 knows that since he is not in school and is not working that his room-board-clothing-car-gas-phone-Internet-etc.... is the cost of being our beck-and-call-boy and we made him miserable enough that he enlisted in the USAF.
Your SD needs the same diligent misery factors applied to his existence in order to motivate him to self reliance.
If our son was working he would be paying $300/mo in rent, 1/3 of the utilities including cable, Internet, telephone, power, gas, water and trash and his own car insurance and gas if he wanted to live with us. If not, he is welcome to move out and support himself.
We throw in aggravating random tasks just to let him know that if he wants more control over his own life he can move on any time he chooses to. He has now signed his contract with the AF and is reporting to basic training on April 12th.
We do love him but the last thing we can teach him is self reliance.
My mom used pitchers of ice
My mom used pitchers of ice water. It worked every time.
Eventually she could just rattle the pitcher full of ice water and sounds of rattling cubes would get my brother and I flying out of bed.
The same tactic works for the grandkids when they are at grandma's too.