ok, so 30 days ago DH gave ss23 the decree that if he did not have a full time job in 30 days he was going to buy him a bus ticket and ship him back to his mother in Tenn. Well, before we could do so, we got a call last week that out Son, 19 was in the hospital in critical condition. The night before, ss23 went out with his "friends" and never called, knowing the rule that he is to call if he is not going to be home. The next morning we got the call for son, 19, who for his age has serious medical issues. we left for the 6 hour drive to get to son 19. We called the house numerous times all day on Friday with no one home and no messages. Now we were worried that while riding his bike in town he may have been hit by a car or something. Saturday morning and afternoon, still no one home and no messages from ss23. While dealing with everything else we decided to start calling ss23's friends and finally found out he was great and having a grand old time. When he finally called his father 3 hours after making contact with his friends, he had the nerve to tell DH he didn't understand why we were upset. DH said he would deal with him after the crisis with son 19 was over. ss23 then called dh at midnight on Saturday night and said he wanted to talk to dh because "he had a lot on his mind" DH lost it, telling him that he was a self centetred little jerk and how dare he make this about him. On sunday while driving home after son 19 came out of his coma, ss23 called us while we were on the road to tell dh he was moved out since we were so angry with him and he didn't understand why. I then issued the decree that the brat does NOT move back in for ANY reason. Either way, for now I'm free of this self centered little freeloader and DH finally sees what the rest of us have been trying to tell him.