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Dh and I had a talk last night

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Submitted by sam on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 11:21am

About everything that is going on and what the proper age would be for kids to get out get a job and live on their own.Ok so dh says that as long as they are in school they can live with us which i agree to a certain extent.Maybe highschool years right?But past that they are adults and if they go to college are we still suppose to support them?Frick that means they can live with us into their late 20s i dont think so!!!

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Submitted by Sia on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 11:30am

way! I can barely tolerate SD until she's 18, let alone into her 20's...I don't think so!

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Submitted by secondwife20 on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 11:39am

through college, they should pay rent and still follow your rules. I'm not saying that you should charge them $500 a month for rent... but charge them enough so that they know that you and DH are not going to be a free ride forever. My parents told me that once I graduated high school, I was expected to move out, even if I was in college... but if I decided that I wanted to stay, it was fine with them... except I had to pay them $150 every month. Of course, I moved out but that's what they would have done if I stayed with them.

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Submitted by secondwife20 on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 11:46am

if SD8 wanted to stay with us through college, I would throw myself off a cliff... but that's the option I would give my children when they get to that age someday.

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Submitted by stepmom2one on Sun, 02/08/2009 - 4:36pm

My SD 9--no way! I talked to my h about it, just to see where he stood. Thank the lord he said SD8 can live with her BM after she turns 18 and graduates (in the same week). But our Bkids can stay as long as they are respectful and are in college full time! What a relief!!.

I care about SD but boy oh boy is she hell on wheels! I can barely stand her for EOW, wed nights we have her but I have H use as "father daughter date night". This way I don't have to see her or deal with SD.

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Submitted by sam on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 11:49am

what age would you say go get a job and start making your own money?

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Submitted by secondwife20 on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 11:56am

At least, that's what my parents made me do. If I wanted to drive around in a car, I better have a job to pay for gas.

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Submitted by Sia on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 12:02pm

If you can drive, you can work! No free rides here!

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Submitted by sam on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 12:01pm

is my worry ss who is almost 17 makes no effort to get his license even though we have told him all this stuff about the freedom he would have etc...But no go and makes no effort to look for a job sits in his room all day everyday.

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Submitted by Endora on Tue, 02/03/2009 - 12:25pm

Is like yours-but is downstairs gaming 24/7-his father got him a part time job (that he has already slept through a shift cuz "Daddykins" was not there to wake him up)-so not sure how long the job will last-

SS16 functions at the emotional level of between 10-12 due to guilt parenting -so it will be awhile for the drivers license-

As an aside -this kid will not shower or look after himself in anyway without being TOLD-he has been told he will need glasses for driving-

SS says: I will NOT wear glasses-end of story for driving.

He will walk around smelly and pusy with horrible acne-but NOT glasses! Too funny!

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