SD21 and SO21 rented our house for a bit. She working part time and he working full time bringing in decent pay. The rent was paid once, and not on time. The lights, heat and water not paid. They have since moved out, but have left all their stuff in the house, planning to get it out "soon". We are needing it cleaned out so we can rent it. We can not afford to have it sit there making no money, but costing money. We are approx. $1500 in the red over this and wiser. This was an expensive lesson, but that is not the current problem. Our relationship is. Evidently talking honestly about concerns is not the way things are done. 21SD and I spent some time together where I told her of our current financial situation. We are in sales and in a tight spot due to slow season. I told her this and that her Dad was stressed and that we could not take the vaca that was planned for this summer. In no way did I say that this was all her fault because she owed us so much ( I take it that we will not see that money again, and letting that go as a lesson)....but that is how she took it. Now she has excluded her Dad and I from her life. Blames me for the estrangement. I feel I was truthful, but kind and gentle. Things came up in conversation, but was not the basis for our conversations, and she left here with a hug and a smile,so....??? Did not talk to me at all about her feelings. So, now I have come between her Dad and them (both girls) by talking like I would to anyone...my womb children included. So, this is what the "evil" stepmother is about heh??
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