BF's that is. So we are "engaged" (no egagement ring but we had said July this year and have the wedding bands) and I have been truly looking at my role in this family and undecided if I was actually gonna be able to go through it. I have real issues with the fact that BM #2 (ex wife) will be a constant part of my life. I am having a big problem accepting that as my lifes fate. I just found out this afternoon that BF has been lying to me (yet again, we just went through this in July, August, September and October 2006) about his contact with his daughters BM (BM#2). As I previously found out (all those months in 2006) he is still doing the same crap. All up her a$$ and chatting about everything, his plans...her plans...etc. Shit they don't need to be talking about. Especially when it involves me! I gave him chance after chance after chance to fix this. We set up a joint email account so that all communication could be viewed by both of us. Because she knows that email is a joint account, she only sends stuff about the kids. So I thought it was working we were all being informed about the things we needed to be informed about. Well, as usual BF set up a "schedule" for them to discuss other aspects of their lives (ummmm yeah me and my life were discussed and commented upon amongst themselves) while he was at work. This has happened in the past, so I have access to all his cell phone records. Apparently, he has been chatting from his work phone as for me to not find out. But, like the idiot he is (well, maybe I am the idiot for letting him continuously do this to me) slipped up and said something about some party BM was going to after she picked up SD. When I said hmmmmm well this is the first I have heard of that (I don't care where she goes...just wonder how he knows) and once I said that it was "....oh....ummmmmmm....well.....didn't she mention that in an email that she sent to the joint account about the kids?" Yeah not likely considering this is the first I have heard of it. So, anyway, sounds like he is up to his old tricks again...stupid me to actually think he would stop this crap. Afterall, he HAS to talk to her about all this stuff cause she might take away his visits with his daughter. At least that is what he says. Needless to say, he and I will not share "wedded bliss." Once I am able to financially get the hell out of here I am sooooooooooooooooo gone. I know I can't go back in time but if I could I would have left him the first time this happened. Before I quit my job to take care of HIS kids. One of which disrespects me at all costs, I suppose it was all worth it.....NOT!