A New Year..Even more Frustrations
So I decided that for the New Year, I would take a new approach and start fresh with BM...this lasted all of two weeks. Here is why.
So just like many of you out there, we struggle to pay bills and basically live from paycheck to paycheck. Anything that comes up that needs to be covered for SD10, we struggle to pay and make ends meet for the rest of the bills. In our custody agreement, it states that we have primary custody and BM gets SD10 every other weekend. If she asks for more time, we are happy to give it as it benefits SD10. It also states that she is to cover SD10 health insurance 100% through minority. WELLLLL, that is not the case and has not been since SD10 was 4. We cover it under a state policy. As of the end of this month, we are no longer eligible for this plan as my husband works too many hours (mostly to cover our bills). I work full time and go to school full time so my income is stretched to the max. He has been getting 400 per month in child support. This all changed on Friday.
We recieved a notice in the mail that BM is requesting an review of child support so she does not have to cover SD10 on insurance nor does she have to pay as much as she has been. I am completly blown away by this. She feels that no one but her struggles to pay the bills and SD10 is only a dollar sign to her. The less she has to pay, the better she feels about SD10. She has done nothing but tell SD10 that she cant pay for anything special for them to do because she has to pay her dad child support.
I am at a loss as I feel resentment for her and dont know how to get past that feeling. Does anyone else have any words of advise in order to help me stop hating the person she is and not simply the actions she exhibits?
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Sounds like maybe you guys
Sounds like maybe you guys need to take her back to court and try to have cs raised! I don't know much about cs since bm does not have to pay a single cent for any of the five kids she had taken from her. But sometimes I think about how easily she has gotten off while I struggle with the turmoil she puts into our lives. I also do not know how to get past my resentment over her. In my eyes she does not deserve any of her 7 children. She does not pay for thier clothes,food,insurance she does not take them to the drs or make phone calls with the school. She does nothing but put more stress in my life. As for the insurance-We also no longer recieve state benefits. My husband makes very good money but his insurance would cost us 1000 a month. So I have them all on CHIP.Depending how much you guys make a month says how much you will have to pay. My h makes over 5000 a month and I have to pay only 137 a month for all three of them. I know it is a pain in the butt going thru all that and sometimes I feel like throwing it all on their bm but she is about useless and her kids need ins so I just do what I gotta do.
I can't stop hating thier bm because what these two kids have been thru at her hands makes me sick. She deserves no more from me. I have given up everything for her kids and that is more then she has ever done for them. I hope someday they see this and I hpe I can hold on til then!
As for your struggles...I greatly applaud you. To work full time and go to school full time while dealing with bm...I think you are amazing. So,give yourself a very large amount of credit and hang in there.I hope all goes well for you!
if she's been allowed
if she's been allowed CONSISTANT visitation in excess of everyother weekend, i can see her argument to be 100% honest
She has only decided to take
She has only decided to take us for review of cs because my husband said he is making too many hours to apply for state benefits. We are sticking with the agreement from hereon out so that is not the reason she is asking for a reduction. She simply thinks we should struggle as she does and does not care about SD10 being impacted