I used to put positive thoughts and affirmations up where Bozo and Baby Huey would have to see them regularly, if not actually read them. I pulled this one down from the wall next to the toilet yesterday and think I'll keep it just for me this time:

If I neglect the cultivation of my gifts, the nurturing of my deepest needs, the enjoyment of those pleasures that tickle my peculiar fancy, it is unlikely that my caring for others will spring from the bounty of my being. Whenever we abandon our personal sense of vocation or enjoyment of life, we place an enormous burden on others to justify the sacrifices we have made "for their sake" ... Develop those modes of caring that allow you to love both self and others. The sacrifices love demands of us should make our lives rich in meaning and satisfaction.

Don't remember where I snagged it from and apologize for not attributing the original author. I am very grateful for the profound wisdom shared in this paragraph.