So, YSS took some things from this house without asking and that weren't his to take without asking. They are small things but it's a pattern, not an accident or first time offense. He was asked to find them and bring them back over a month ago.

DH told BM about what was missing and she found one. She sent it back. (This in itself is a miracle.)

YSS came home with one more after the end of school because somehow someone else ended up with one and had it in a locker...and happened to ask whose it was thankfully rather than just tossing it. (It has our last names on the bottom by the way.)

DH is all happy that two of the three are recovered and I should be grateful. He got upset that I was not super happy and done with the issue. I had to spell it out: YSS did not look for the items like we asked (several times), BM looked for and found one, YSS lucked out that his classmate asked rather than tossed the second. The third one is still missing.

I told DH that I will stop asking but I will not agree that YSS had any hand in the actual recovery of what he took. He put in zero effort. Not okay.

P.S. I told DH at least five times, once in an email, what the things looked like and today he tells me that he has no idea what the third one looks like so how could he or YSS address it? Seriously? If it's my stuff then no matter how big or small, cheap or expensive, it's not important and I'm being overly harsh. No, DH, I take care of my stuff and when someone borrows my stuff they'd damned well better take care of it too and bring it back as if they'd never touched it.