Had an interesting epiphany with events that happened over a couple of days.

When DH tells me of an infraction done by my kid, I believe DH first and go to talk to my kid based on believing DH's version is correct. It has turned out that DH has been wrong on occassion. I don't go in with guns blazing at my kid, but I do tell him to do/not do something based on what DH said...then it may come out that the situation is different.

When I tell DH of an infraction done by a skid, DH does not believe me and either gives me an excuse or tells me he will go ask the skid. He believes the skid first. I'm assumed to be wrong on all but a few occassions when I can prove the skid is wrong. DH asks and prompts...so almost hands them the answer that makes it all okay.

I know my kid is frustrated by the fact I take the adult's word on it first. I know he sometimes sees his stepdad excusing his stepbrothers and he doesn't get the same treatment.

I'm tempted to do it DH's way and not believe him and make excuses for my kid. I wonder if he'd notice. I wonder if he'd get it when I pointed out that I changed up how I did it to how he does it.