Take a good hard look at all of this. Figure out what you want and expect and hope for in the future. Then sit down and have a heart to heart. But also be willing to listen. It sucks, but the moment I stopped getting defensive was the moment dh did too. He says he always tries harder than I do and he gives in first. He's entitled to his opinion. Years ago, when he first got his divorce (& we were just friends ) he said he never wanted to be married again and never wanted more children. Things Change. Sometimes for better, sometimes for worse. Regardless of how your chat goes, you can take comfort in the fact you told him how you're feeling. It's better to do so prior to a wedding.

Breaking up is always hard but I don't agree that it is always excruciatingly painful. Sometimes it is quite liberating.

Stop and look at what you are getting from him in the relationship. Does the positive vastly outweigh the negative?

Just because you love him doesn't mean that you should stay with him. You can stop loving someone. Not always easy but very doable.

If I had this kind of sign after our engagement, I would have probably taken it. Instead the last few years have been hell. We are coming out of now, but it is not without serious detriment to what our marriage could have been if BM and SD hadn't been such a nightmare.

Good luck and do what is right for you...

I hope you're able to come to a clear decision on this and be happy. Listen to your gut. You wouldn't be considering leaving if there wasn't a valid and good reason.

Might want to read pixelated's blog (and I do believe there have been several others recently) about how awesome they feel after getting out of their relationships. Not saying this is right for you, just saying it's good to have other opinions and experiences.

I wish you the best and please keep us updated. It feels like a big family here, all of us bonded together in some way, shape or form