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Submitted by Ratatouille25041969 on Thu, 07/26/2018 - 7:07am

Hi,

Please help I am really fed up with my guilt ridden husband and his mini wife.

I feel like an outsider and that I am the bad one for daring to say anything when SD acts moody and spoilt. She gets away with murder and if I say anything then world war 3 breaks out with my DH unleashing his wrath on me. SD acts like a baby and needs Daddy to sleep with her otherwise she cries all night. This has been going on for a year and her catty comments are all ready evident at the age of 9! I try to be nice but it all depends what mood she is in and we all have to pamper for that. My house is being run by 9 year old and my DH can't see it. Should I leave as I am the adult who cannot put up with this?

 

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Submitted by Survivingstephell on Thu, 07/26/2018 - 7:24am

Depends, is your name on the house?  Can you afford to leave?  Do you have your ducks in a row if this leads to divorce?  I come from an Adult lead house point of view and would never tolerate a 9yo ruling the house.  I have a 9yo daughter right now and she keeps trying to be the boss.  I can only imaging how awful she would be if I wasn't around to correct her perceptions.  

Her father is doing her no favors and there are plenty of stories on here about the mini wife situation.  You need to do what you need to do to make you happy.  Not addressing will only lead to an adult mini wife and poor man.  

 

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Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 07/26/2018 - 7:25am

I amy not be the right person to respond, but my second husband was an abuser. This site literally probably saved my life about 5 years ago. When someone says my husband "unleashes his wrath" I say get the F out of there!  

I am also the kind of person that will not allow any child, my own bios included, to rule my home. I am the Adult, Wife and Parent. The end. 

Ratatouille25041969's picture

Submitted by Ratatouille25041969 on Thu, 07/26/2018 - 8:04am

Thanks, yes I own 50 house so am financially stable. How do I cope with him putting his kid on a pedestal?

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Thu, 07/26/2018 - 8:23am

He sounds abusive. And he sleeps with his 9yo daughter every night?? Yuck.

The only way I'd cope with this situation is to kick him and his mini wife out and file for divorce.

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Submitted by TX2step on Thu, 07/26/2018 - 8:49am

Woe to the man that thinks his wrath is greater than mine. Using profanity is meant to lower your self esteem. Put you in your place. Yes I would put this nightmare in my rear view mirror. Burn rubber whilst shooting him the birdie.... Eff you indeed.