I have been worrying since my DS8's birthday party that DH was going to try and push me into situations regarding SD18. I will have nothing to do with her and try not to even be around her since she spews vile lies about me to everyone including family. Well, my husband had told me I would have to deal with it if she showed up to my DS's bday party, and that left me feeling uneasy about him being considerate of my feelings. So I carefully broached to subject. To my surprise he stayed calm, didn't not try and instigate a fight, and did not raise his voice at all. He told me that he respects my feelings and would not try and push me into "hanging out" with SD18. I also told him I was concerned due to her "weaseling" her way back in to our lives as she has been brown nosing my DH. DH said he had noticed a sudden change with her behavior when it came to him (as in calling wanting for him to hang out with her and buying him things such as his favorite energy drink). I told him that I don't mind if he hangs out with her and he called me out on that lie. I then said yes, I do care because he works so much as is and I barely see him and would rather him be spending time with me and our kids than his kid. I was so relieved to know that he doesn't not expect me to deal with her, and is not planning on trying to push me into having a relationship with SD18 (as it always goes south very fast due to her lying and stealing).