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Submitted by Rags on Tue, 02/04/2020 - 2:09pm

Why is it that so many in blended family/Step marriages engage in so much self delusion in their blended family relationships?

Toxic ill behaved manipulative Skids who while creating havoc in the lives of blended families and in many cases direct that crappy behavior at their SParent only to have that SParent tolerate it and ascribe qualities to that kid that just are not there.  The kid is a "good" kid at heart, "sweet", "Loving", etc, etc, etc........ Yet evil, manipulative, toxic, illbehaved, etc, etc....

A great day, then... the screaming and shreeking commences.

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 02/02/2020 - 2:12pm

We left mid AM to mail gifts to my wife's sister and cousin and tax docs to my MIL and my wife's aunt.

Then the indecisive selection of a restaurant for breakfast commenced.  Eventually we ended up at a good breakfast place we ate at once about a year and half of ago.  The restaurant is about 15miles from our home.  After breakfast I asked DW which way she wanted to go as we left the parking lot.  She said "Left".

Isolation as manipulation.

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 01/09/2020 - 5:47pm

My DW's first cousin (on her BioDad's side) has been Dx'd with breast cancer and will have a lumpectomy and bilateral breast reduction done today.  I am hopeful that her surgery and recovery are successful.

The comprehensive gene study the cousins doctors performed  found no indication of the Braca gene which is great news for her, my wife and the three nieces.  The nieces are the three daughters of the other first cousin (the cancer patients sister) who sadly is a crack head and has been absent from the picture for a decade or more cycling in and out of jail and homeless camps.

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Happy New Year

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Submitted by Rags on Tue, 12/24/2019 - 8:06am

Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays and Happy New Year to all STalkers around the world.

May your Holidays be full of laughter and love.

May your 2020 be a new year of meaning and adventure.

May your blended families all keep the drama to a minimum.

Keep it all between the curbs folks and be safe.

He's been thinking.....

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 12/19/2019 - 12:27pm

We flew to Colorado Springs last Friday to spend the weekend with SS-27. He was selected for a short notice TDY for high level systems training and flew in from Germany the Sunday before for the training. He flew back to Germany yesterday.

We had a great weekend with the kid. He engaged, he was animated, he said several times that he was happy that we jumped on a plane to see him.  It really was a great weekend.

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Spent the weekend just the 4 of us. (OT)

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Submitted by Rags on Wed, 12/11/2019 - 9:21pm

For the first time since 2010.  Mom, Dad, me and my younger brother.  No kids and no wives.

It was nice.  My SIL and youngest Nephew were at home in Asia, the rest of the GrandSpawn were doing their thing where they live, (Dallas, CO, Germany) and my bride was visiting her family for the Adoption hearing/celebration of our two newest nieces (twin 9yos).

We had a very nice time together.  I really did win the parent and brother lottery.  I am a fortunate guy.

THE AFTERMATH

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Submitted by Rags on Mon, 12/02/2019 - 8:39am

Just got back from our TG trip to Austria & Germany.  We had a great time.  The Alps were beautiful, we enjoyed the week with our friends (3 other couples) and we had a nice visit with the kid.  Every time we spend time with him I am more impressed by the man that he is.  

Happy Thanksgiving

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Submitted by Rags on Thu, 11/28/2019 - 3:08am

Happy thanks giving to STalkers around the world.

The kid was supposed to join us yesterday but it looks like he will not arrive until this afternoon.  He is apparently stuck in traffic between Kaiserslautern  and Schladming where we are celebrating in the Alps with friends.  Not unusual for anything planned with him.  However, he works and tends to get involved in things that disrupt personal plans.  So, his mom might let him live for cutting into her kid time.  Maybe.

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