O/T And.... boss replies to the notice.
In short, sad to get the notice, surprised, and wants to talk about it Monday.
Reeks of a calm and sensitive kick off to gaslighting to me.
They have had years to do something to improve things. No effort made at all. The young managing partner has been ostensibly running the firm for a year but the official announcement went out at the first of the year 2023.
No new CPAs hired, no new preparers hired who will stay longer than a year, they leave.
The managing partner, has yet to replace himself as a preparer/reviewer. He took over as managing partner more than a year ago. DW told him this a few months ago. He told DW and the other 'future of the firm' CPA who is the same age as DW a few months ago that he would not be preparing or reviewing this year. Though not said, this was basically him telling them that ... they will have to work even crazier hours.
DW has disolved into sobs and guilt and asking 'why do I feel so bad?' I am just trying to reassure her, hold her, and tell her that it will be okay.
Her fan club immediately has responded to her reaching out on the managing partner's reply basically telling her to buck up and not to bite on his request to talk. I agree. She needs to gird her loins and stick to her resignation. She needs to play her own self protective stragegy on this rather than participating in the firm's games.
I hurt for my wife. But she needs to stand firm and not beat herself up. She does not want to hurt anyone. In reality, the only person who will be tuely hurt, on a number of levels, is my DW. Hurt emotionally, professionally, physically, medically, and probably hurt in ways I have even realized yet.
IMHO she should not speak to him about this. To even have that talk will not do anything but hurt her more.
Here is the managing partner's response to DW's 2wk notice.
Hello ....,
I can't tell you how hard that email hit me. I hear what you are saying and definitely understand. If you are up to it I would love to talk with you on Monday about this and make sure we are considering everything. Obviously your health is a very serious thing and you being there for you family is the utmost importance. If we can't find some solution and you still feel this way I will understand. It will be tough, but I understand.
I hope you are open to talking on Monday.
Thank you,
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Why that gaslighting asshat!
Why that gaslighting asshat!
While I'd luuuuuvvvv to say 'tell butthead "bwahahahahaaaaaaa.... thanks, but no thanks, dipshidiot!"'; her response should be something akin to... "Several times I have brought up my health and the need for change. Empty promises were made every single time. The solution is that I am leaving." Or "Thanks for the offer, but I'll pass. My decision is final."
Yeah, okay, maybe the empty promises is not very professional, but it's the least assholey response I can think of at this time. We all know they're in an uber-panic because their overworked, underpaid Yes Girl is leaving. Tough gazongas for them. Call the waaaaaaahm-bulance.
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This wont be over....
This wont be over til its over. This next 2 weeks will be awful for her.
As with a toxic relationship,
As with a toxic relationship, the bosses will probably try to "love bomb" her into staying. But, as with a toxic relationship, the changes they promise aren't likely to last.
Hey Rags..great that your Bride gave notice to leave the job
I just signed on to give encouragement for your DW to be strong and get out of the toxic workplace.
I left a very toxic and poorly compensated workplace last July. I had to give a months notice. My newly hired assistant at the time saw the writing on the wall, she found another job with better pay and benefits and left before I did. I cared about the job and people I served but the employer was toxic and did not care. It took them six months before they even hired anyone to fill the job after I left. They did not care about the cases that were in progress. The month of working after giving notice was very difficult. Your DW can do her two weeks and get out of there.
She should take some time off before the new job and chill out.
It took about two or three months for my stress level to start going down. It was the right thing to do for my health and well being. Thankfully I was able to retire and not have to find another job. My DH put everything on a spreadsheet and even though we have to spend out of savings to meet the budget, we are ok. We are in the decumulation stage of our lives.
Good luck to you both!