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Interesting conversation at dinner last night. The Skid was ranting about his SpermIdiot.

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 01/30/2011 - 9:27pm

We were at dinner Sat night. My wife, our son (SS-18) and I. During dinner my SS's next oldest SpermIdiot half sib texts him about spending the evening killing ants crawling all over the SpermIdiot's food in his kitchen. He showed my wife the texts between he and his sister.

The text conversation between SS and half sib segwayed in to a a dissertation by SS about the SPermIdiot.

Apparently he "thinks he is cool". All four of his spawn call him by his first name and ridicule him apparently constantly about his attempt to continue to dress as he did in his early 20's while in his early 40's. Baggie jeans, boxers to cover his ass, funky corn rows (he is a white guy who looks like Opy Cunningham), etc... None of the kids give him any respect and he just ignores their crap. All 4 of the kids refer to BioDad as "your father" when speaking of him to each other.

Initially the focus of SS's comments were on the baggy jeans, boxers and half of is butt crack showing. As SS harped on this I responded with "well, he is a plumber and apparently is proud of his butt crack". My wife and SS busted out laughing until they were in tears.

Then the comment went on to the SpermIdiot being spiritual. SpermGrandMa is in to some fundamentalist Christian cult while the SpermIdiot is apparently in the Karma and positive energy, etc.....

I have no problem with Karma, etc.... but even my SS-18 is savvy enough to recognize that his SpermIdiot is fucked if he is depending on karma to guide his life. Karma is going to bend him over and ride him like a cheap pony for the rest of his life for all of the negative shit he has saddled his children, all three baby mamas and even his parents (who deserve what ever crap they get).

My wife and I both attempted to tone down SS's rant about his SpermIdiot but he just kept unloading for about an hour and a half all through dinner. DW and I both got sucked in to his rant a few times and threw in a flaming turd or two but we tried to keep our son to a dull roar on his rant. He had us in stitches with his stories and rants about his BioDad.

Last night before bed both SS and my wife commented about how good of a time they had at dinner.

Today, they both commented a few times about how much fun we have had this WE and about how fun dinner was last night.

I could not imagine not having my dad be the incredible man of character and substance that he is. It must be difficult for my son to have his BioDad not be worthy of his respect. That is sad to me.

SS has done pretty well overcoming his SpermIdiot and the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool. It may be sad to me that he has to deal with it, but his ability to deal with his feelings about his SpermIdiot with humor has probably helped him put the SpermIdiot burden behind him.

At least I hope it is behind him.

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 01/30/2011 - 10:24pm

Nat,

My SS's BioDad is a nice looking guy. Slender, etc.... He is also very intelligent. He is just one of those people who works harder at getting out of work than he does actually doing it. He played hooky for the equivalent of an entire year of HS and barely graduated. He worked as a landscaper when SS was born and he and my wife were together. He would refuse to pick up groceries on the way home from work because he did not want to be seen in his work clothes and continues this crap because he does not want to be seen in his plumber's clothes.

When he would come home from work, shower and dress then he would refuse to go pick up groceries because he was tired and it was too far to drive to the grocery store. He would not let my wife get a DL so she could not do it herself. During the day while BioDad was at work she and the baby (SS-18) would walk 2miles to a country market to pick up milk and basics.

Eventually he did become a licensed plumber which is far more than I ever expected him to become. He is intermittently employed on a voluntary basis because he believes it keeps his CS lower and because it keeps SpermGrandMa quilted in to paying the CS he owed for my SS, in to raising his three younger also out-of-wedlock spawn and letting him live rent free in a rental home SpermGrandMa and SpermGrandPa own.

It is his purposeful mediocrity and idiot crap that chaps my ass. Who would voluntarily set that example for their children when they are capable of setting a very good one?

Your parents sound like good people who are worthy of your respect. I too won the parent lottery.

Too bad all kids are not so fortunate.

Best regards,

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Submitted by Rags on Sun, 01/30/2011 - 11:34pm

I thought you might live in his neck of the woods and actually know him. I hope not. For your sake. Wink

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Submitted by Tx mommy of 3 on Sun, 01/30/2011 - 9:53pm

Well, I think your ss can joke about his biodad and has managed to be different than thattamily because of the positive role model and father you have been to him. He knows you are DAD and is probably very grateful to have you in his life, whether he has acknowledged it or not.