well last night we picked up sd-6 an had decided to talk to her about the possiblity of going onto a shared care arrangement with her bm. was a bit worried about her reaction to this however we where pleasantly surprised at her responce. sd was actually bouncing on the couch with excitment at spending 7 nights at our house and 7 nights at her bms house, i was so relieved to see this kind of responce as i was concerned she would hate the idea become upset but she said she really wanted it and NOW! we did have to explain that we need to wait on the courts but it was what hubby ( her father ) and i wanted also. we went on to discuss some of the things that would occur if this arrangement took place and i refered to the arrangement as sd staying at her bms house first for 7 nights then ours and she said NO DADS FIRST.. it made me feel so good to see her wanting to be with us and us to be a bigger part of her life it was a good night.