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The never ending ticket and wreaking the expetdition saga!

purpledaisies's picture

Yesterday yuck called dh to tell him that ss16 said he will be damned if he will comne here and work the whole weekend for braking the mirror on the expedition and getting a ticket and telling his dad. (Dh planned on him cleaning the cars inside and out for that) Dh was more mad that he didn't tell him and let yuck tell him and to ask about the mirror or ss16 wouldn;t have said anything.

Dh told yuck that he doesn;t have a choice in the matter and he will be coming. yuck said I told him he had to go and he didn;t have a choice, but ss16 told her then that he will NOT be working end of it.

Dh said we will see about that. But then when he got off the phone he started to doubt that ss16 broke the mirror b/c he said he went to check the tire tracks in the back yard and they weren't close enough to any trees. :?

Um ok whatever I told dh that there is a SLIM chance he didn;t brake and it could have happened in a parking lot like he was thinking HOWEVER it is highly unlikely!

I am so upset right now b/c it was one of my kids i would have been real about it and think how unlikely it would be that someone hit the mirror in a parking lot as we live in a small town I don;t drive it that often and if I do it is just to the store and back. So i would have told them nope if you hadn't have been trying to play around and hide it from us it wouldn;t have happened. and they would have been punished accordingly (cleaning out the cars inside and out).

But NOOO just b/c it is ss16 and he is standing up to his dad dh is backing down i am just not too happy with him right now.

I mean how likely is it really that someone hit the mirror of the expedition in a parking lot and broke the mirror as it is a high car like a big truck i mean that other car has to be a really high car??

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paul_in_utah's picture

I feel your pain. My DW is forever bending over backwards looking for ways to excuse my SD17's screw-ups. The simplest explanation is usually the correct one, so I am thinking that you are correct in your belief that you SS caused the damage.

purpledaisies's picture

Oh no he didn't say he didn;t do it but he said he might have hit a bush but that didn;t brake the mirror however we do not have any bushes in the back yard we only have trees. However he didn't say anything to us about 'might have hit something' so now we don't really know for sure how the mirror got broke. So now it makes dh question weather he did it or not.

Since he didn;t tell us we didn't get the chance to look at the car to see if there was any damage. which is what ss16 wanted in first place i am sure that that is what he wanted to create doubt! So now I have no doubt that he did brake it and he choose not to say anything so that he doesn't get in trouble. Hence why he told yuck he is not coming her to work so that makes me think he did it even more.

Totalybogus's picture

If I were dad I would tell him NOW his truly IS cleaning the cars and some other chores for being disrespectful and back talking.

Man, I can take a lot from a kid except those two things. If I say you're doing, YOU ARE DOING IT.

At least the BM is supporting you guys. That has not been the case in our situation.

purpledaisies's picture

She only told him he is coming b/c she cab't handle him herself and wants to be kid free which she is every weekend as the boys are with her aunt when they are not here. She doesn't care what we do as long as they aren't with her.

Ommy's picture

I would take his christmas presents back. I dont know how you and your H are dealing with this so level headed. I have issues with teenage driving, because my 4 year old cousin was killed by his sister not paying attention and trying to show of for her friend that was in the passenger seat when she was 16. If it was my SS his ass would be handed to him on a sliver platter. First the ticket, then the mirror, followed by attitude....I would be through the roof.

purpledaisies's picture

have mainly let dh handle it as he was really mad when it happened but now that they are coming today he is starting to back down since ss16 said "i will be damned if i will work all weekend" I am so mad about him saying that more than anything.

I can talk to dh very calmly and he will listen which is great so I am going to talk to him again about ss16 not telling us and that he is pretty much saying he will not work and refuse to do what dad says. that is so wrong.