The Update:

Bm texted and said that ss15 was going with them to the competition so dh doesn't have to worry about picking him up. Dh said he wants to text her back saying "what ever it takes to keep them away from me"

Can we say she still is trying to make it look like dh is a dead beat dad and she does EVERYTHING with NO help!? Thins woman makes me sick! :sick:

IO guess i should add that ss15 already missed mon. and now he is going to miss fri as well just b/c bm refuses to let dh pick him up on fri.

what can dh do about this and how can he make bm let him have his kids!
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So I have blogged before that bm seems to think that dh is incapable of taking his kids to sports or any other events that they may have on his time so she just tells him they are not coming that weekend!

I have talked to him about how that is not right and he doesn't want to rock the boat. So I left it alone.

Anyway a few days ago bm texted and said that ss11 have a competition this weekend and none of the boys are coming b/c of that. He told her whatever.

Fast forward to today bm called (dh doesn't answer unless she leave a mess about why she is calling) he let it go to vm. She did not leave a vm but texted him that he needs to call her. He texted back Why? She then called so he answered thinking there could be something wrong.

She wanted to know if dh was going to be at his competition which is fri! Yes ladies it is on fri during the day! He then go upset with her and said that he can still get them for the weekend.

She then went into a rant about how horrible her life is without help and her having to take care of the kids 24/7 with no help! Dh told her that if she would let him be a dad instead of just telling him what he is to do and what is going to happen that he can take some of it off her. Like let him TAKE the kids to their sporting events and such on HIS TIME. And with this one he can pick ss15 up from school for since he is not going with her to this event. It was way more intense then that but he got his point across and she still said "I'll have to get back to you on that" Really?
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He told her that on her way back from the event she can call him and let him know so he can meet her at their meeting place and already have ss15 picked up from school so she doesn't have to worry about him. He told her that he is trying to help if she would let him instead of piling it up on herself and it is her fault if she won't let him!

He told me he is done with the whatever thing and he is going to tell it like it is to her so he can be the dad he needs to be and it is partly her fault for not allowing him to be but his fault for allowing her to do it.
way to go dh!!!