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SD facing the crackdown

porcelian-doll's picture

SD tried to be sneaky Saturday night. She told BM that DH was going to pick her up after dance but DH had to work late and my car needs the brakes inspected. BM actually had the forethought to call DH and make sure because we had already communicated this with her. I guess SD thought that BM didn't know this already and would just assume that DH would be picking her up unless told otherwise. Sorry SD your parents actually communicated this time. So BM called and DH told her that she already knows he can’t make it. BM and DH came up with a plan. BM didn't tell SD she was the wiser. She drove up to dance after class to see what SD was going to do. Sure enough BM saw her run to some guy. I got the call from BM telling me to tell DH to call her back. I hear BM yelling at SD to give her phone and kiss dance class and her freedom goodbye. DH talked to her yesterday morning. He gave her the crackdown.

“SD14 I've had enough. We don't even know what to do anymore. Not only is getting in a car with some horny pig headed little boy and lying to your parents about it bad enough. You know you have a court appointed curfew. Do you know what will happen if you are caught breaking that curfew. You will get a lot more than a slap on the wrist and community service and your mom and I will not bail you out. Do you understand me? What were you thinking just please walk me through your thought process? Where you trying to run away?"

SD sat their crying and saying “No daddy. I wasn't thinking I'm sorry dad.

“BM threw your phone away and you won’t be getting another one. Your birthday party for next weekend will not be happening. From now on you will be driven to and from school and to and from community service. We have put parental blocks on everything. I'm going to be on you like a fly on s****. We just can't trust you anymore. We’re doing this because we love you and one day you will appreciate having parents that love you this much."

SD wrote DH a letter and put it on his desk saying how sorry she was. The most I heard from her all day was her asking me to take the parental block off of Netflix for an hour and a half so she can watch a documentary for school. I hope this is going to finally set her on the right path. No I'm not rejoicing in all of this but I am happy DH is cracking down and BM is seeing the halo crack.

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Sparklelady's picture

Since you mention court, etc., it sounds like this behaviour has been an ongoing issue with your stepdaughter. Seems that what you're really proud of here is your husband actually stepping in. That must feel really great, and validating for you if he has not been very firm up to this point?

Hope things turn out well!

porcelian-doll's picture

So do I sparkeldady so do I. I am proud that he is actually stepping in. Someone needs to. For SDs sake because she is heading off to adulthood in 3 years.