" I don't care if she dies tonight"
I overheard SD on her cell phone telling one of her friends that I am a B for making her clean my house like a slave. She said she wouldn't care if I died tonight she wouldn't even bat an eyelash and I'm lucky she isn't crazy. She was continuing on about how she feels bad about my unborn baby having me as a mom and it will probably come out looking like a vampire ghost.
I'm really upset about this. First of all I did not ask her to clean up DH did I only reminded her when she just laid there not doing anything. And she was not a slave she was asked to clean her own room, Clean her things out of the bathroom and was her own dishes and clean out the bath tub that she uses how is that slave work? I want to cry what she said was so mean. I would never say something like that about anyone. I would actually bat an eyelash she died. Now the question is should I or DH talk to her about this or just let it go and pretend I didn't hear it?
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She's a bratty teenager that
She's a bratty teenager that dh needs to set straight. Don't let it get you. It's when she lays out plans to kill your baby and frame you for murder is when you need to worry.
"I want to cry what she said
"I want to cry what she said was so mean."
I know you feel terrible but try to get to a place in your mind where this doesn't hurt you as much. You should be confident you've done nothing wrong. To me your SD is a first class bitch and a liar, and she's not going to change anytime soon. And now you've started setting some boundaries. And she doesn't like being told what to do.
I wouldn't be surprised if your SD purposely engineered this conversation so you could overhear it.
I would actually laugh a little, because you know what? You're now getting to HER rather than the other way around. You're asserting yourself, your Sd is a bully and bullies don't like that. You've got a bit of the upper hand now
And SD is playing victim because that's all she can do is lie
about you.
I'd recommend picking and choosing your battles as far as telling DH about SD. DH's with bitchy daughters never want to hear the truth and they often will find some way to blame the SM. and it's human nature, people
Don't want to be reminded of their crappy parenting and bad life choices all the time.
As long as SD isn't endangering you, maybe see how this plays out? if you feel like your safety is threatened tell DH. Otherwise I doubt your DH will do anything, or will he?
Honey, she is a teen. She
Honey, she is a teen. She says crappy thing like that to sound cool to her friends. And seriously I would have popped my head around the door and said "Really? Well maybe it is time for you to lose phone privileges. Now whine to your friends about THAT! Oh and just maybe the feeling is mutual."
You have to get tougher and not let her crap teen meangirl remarks get to you. She says it to a) look cool and b) to upset you. When she says nasty things like your baby will be a vampire you should say "Well, you better sleep with one eye open at night then." or "Seriously? You really need to stop listening to crazy people talk. You sound just like Honey Boo Boos family. How weird you find that factual..."
When Ss13 told me he hated me
When Ss13 told me he hated me and always has since the day his dad met me I couldn't help myself from smiling and laughing a little. This upset SS even more. He asked me/ screamed "why are you laughing?" I just told him that I thought it was funny since I'm the one who does everything g for him, more so than his mom or dad: buy an wash his clothes, take him to school, cook his meals, talk with his teachers, plan his bday party and on and on.
I tried to keep my smirk under control but honestly couldn't and could see he was just having a moment.
Yeah it is the sort of things
Yeah it is the sort of things that teen say. And when they do most non relatives write them off until they grow up.
Its time to catch that rant
Its time to catch that rant on tape (it will happen again I would think) on play it for dear daddy with SD in the room. I'm mad for you! I also did that with my SD and that is what dear daddy needed to open his eyes.
BTW, your baby will be beautiful and don't let SD convince you otherwise bc she sounds like a dumba** to say it nicely.
Agree with Growwupplease.
Agree with Growwupplease. When my SO's bio daughter was a teen, she told her friend on the phone that her dad was an asshole. SO heard this and ordered her to give him her phone, no more phone privileges, she refused, called BM, and BM (who wasn't even on the same continent at the time) called the cops on SO accusing SO of abusing their daughter. Cops showed, up, talked to the daughter and then left and told SO "I'm not going to tell you how to parent your kids." This is the same daughter that told SO's late wife to go fuck herself a few months before she died. She's real prize.
So it happens even with bio kids. I will say, you're daughter is being a bitch, teen or not. I think she will grow up to be bitch. A lot of it definitely has to do with teen crap as well.
Just make sure you don't wear yourself out doing nice stuff for her, just completely write her off. Don't do crap for her. Don't give her a ride to the mall, do her laundry, nothing, just refuse.
Her mother is worthless and
Her mother is worthless and she is turning out the same way.
Ask yourself this: Why does her opinion of you matter to you so much?
Would you care if Charles Manson didn't like you?
I used to be all up in arms about what BM thought about me and my family. Then I realized that she is not a person I would be friends with normally. She isn't a person I would even have in my life if I had a choice about it. So why would I care what she thought?
I think you need to just
I think you need to just ignore it. She didn't say it TO you, she vented to a friend in what she thought was a private setting. Kind of like what you do about her here all the time right? My skid is younger and has just started that going to their room muttering about whatever we have told them to do/not to do. I hear it, but I feel like they are entitled to their opinion/feelings and as long as they aren't being rude or disrespectful TO me, then it is whatever. We all get frustrated, we all say things we don't mean in frustration, the good thing about your SD here is that she didn't say it to your face. From reading your blogs there are a few things I've come to a conclusion about with you/your SD. 1. She's jealous of you, she thinks you are pretty 2. She actually likes you but knows she's not *supposed* to and has conflicting feelings about this. 3. She has respect for you, but again because of BM, can't show it fully because she's not supposed to. 4. She has a terrible mother who is teaching her to be a rude person and she's trying to figure out if that's who she is.
My advice to you overall is this. 1. Don't let her get to you so much. She's looking for a strong, positive, female influence, be that. 2. Continue to be supportive and nice (without being walked all over) and parent in the laid back way you seem to (the outfit thing was HILARIOUS!). 3. Include her and guide her in the ways you feel comfortable and help her to feel comfortable being a good person. I really don't think she wants to be nasty, and I think you get a lot of glimpses of who she wants to be.