How does BM know about my private photos?

BM was texting DH angry text because SD has decided she would rather stay with us because DH made her think she actually had a choice. SD14 actually told BM herself that she likes the stability and she doesn't mind the strictness. BM thinks we brain washed her. She keeps sending these long angry text. We were ignoring her until I read. " At least when I'm sprawled out on the bed with my A** showing I look good and not like a pasty white B-----". "Tell your wife not to be a slut because things could end up in the wrong hands".

My heart is pounding so hard I hear it in my ears. A few days DH took some pictures of me on our bed. The pictures only showed my backside in various poses. DH wanted to show that I'm sexy to him even while pregnant. Those texts make it sound like BM knows about those pictures or am I just being paranoid? DH says the pictures are only his camera SD card and we checked and its still in his computer desk drawer. So how could BM have found out? Please tell I'm being paranoid. I did watch a movie about private photos getting around last night so I may be psyching myself out. There is no way she could know.

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Only 2 people could have told

Only 2 people could have told about your private photos..your husband and his kid..take your pick..my husband allowed his daughter( 49) to read private things on his cell phone about BJ's..never ever thought he would do that..but, in your case..I suspect the kid sabotaged your camera !

It's clear she has seen or

It's clear she has seen or been told about the pictures.

If anyone told BM about them,

If anyone told BM about them, it would be the SD. Obviously DH didn't speak of or show photos of his wife with his ex...the guy's not an idiot.

There's a chance BM is just being her usual nasty mean self, but considering her choice of words, I'd bank SD snooped in the desk and viewed the camera. You got a lesson the hard way and I'm sorry. Keep cameras and the such safely locked away from prying snoopy bratty SD from now on. Don't confront her, she'd only be delighted she managed to pull the sneaky task off and share with her BM.

There's nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about the actual photos. DH and you shared an intimacy that is normal between husband and wife. What is not normal is sneaky nosy little brats who pry around like thieves in the night. What she did is a total violation of trust and decency. Brat.

Strike it up to a lesson learned. I'd have your husband go through SD's phone and computer to be sure she didn't download them. If she did, let DH deal with this. Do not give SD any clue or warning, DH immediately checks her electronics. No time to erase or hide.

I would have to say that BM's

I would have to say that BM's harsh words were out of sheer jealousy - so don't worry about that. You're married to your DH and having a baby! It seems tha tmost BM's cannot handle that. So pathetic!

But, I understand how you're feeling - a private moment has been shared with the one person in the whole world that you wouldn't have ever wanted it shared with - BM. I'm pretty sure it wasn't your DH, and that leaves SD. I would absolutely confront her on that. She violated your privacy in your own home and caused you to feel the pain that you're feeling right now. Sweeping it under the rug says its okay. Let her feel the burn and embarrassment when confronted - if she lies about it, I am sure you will be able to tell. Kids and teens make poor liars. Also, you may want to say something to the effect of "I don't know if we can have you live here/be here with us when we cannot trust you".

I'm sorry about how you're feeling!

SD was confronted. She says

SD was confronted. She says she saw the pictures when she was using DH's camera without permission. But swears she only told BM about the pictures but did not send them to anyone. I left the house and I can't look at her without screaming and crying. She humiliated me. That was the most private and intimate thing just for my husband. I know DH wont kick her out his heart wont let him. I just need space I can't even look at her and I never want to see BM ever again as long as I live.

I'm so sorry. It is such a

I'm so sorry. It is such a betrayal of trust all the way around. SD should not be using camera without permission, was violation one. #2 was looking at her father's photos stored on camera...none of her business and she knew that. #3 was speaking of and/or possible sharing of the photos. Obnoxious little brat, there's absolutely no excuse for this behavior. Huge lesson. Never under estimate a teenager.

But the photos themselves are nothing to be ashamed of. You're a beautiful woman who has a husband who loves and desires her. Now head up, shoulders back and be proud of what you and husband have between each other and your relationship together. And I seriously hope that while you're off getting yourself together and recovering from the terrible sense of what SD did, that husband is home coming up with one h*ll of a punishment for the little demon child.