See previous blog for back ground of the clothes.

Told dh I was going to buy clothes for the little boys. He seemed OK with it. So when I get back I decide to show him what I got. I got three outfits for each boy. He looks confused and said he thought that I was going to buy myself workout clothes. I say no, that I swung into Payless to get some sneakers for the gym but that the clothes was for the boys. I explain to him again for that neither one has any clothes these to wear when the weather warms up so my plan is to buy a few outfits every paycheck so that when spring g hits mid march I will be ready. He gets this like scared look on his face. " a few outfits a paycheck, how much clothes are you going to buy them !?!" Well, they need an entire wardrobe was they literally had nothing to wear that fits other than long sleeves and pants. He keeps looking at me with this scared look so I say but if you are asking for like a minimum number that I need to buy, ten. They each need a minimum of ten outfits for me to make it through a week.

I think we both walked away unresolved. Me because I think its rediculous that he nickle and dimes our kids over necessities. And him because he just sees dollar signs flying out of the bank account. But come on...does he expect the boys to swear long sleeves and pants all summer in FL??.

Then last night he had the skids's cleaning their rooms. It took them over 5 hours (but that's a whole left different vent) and when he went to check the rooms he come out and tells me how S's crammed him coats in his toy selves because he had no room in his closet I mention that they both have way too much clothes. He then says that its not that they have too much clothes, its that ss has old clothes that doesn't fit him taking up room in his closet. I say no, that everything in there fit him except for a few things that are nice old picture outfits and suits. His response was...yeah but if we got rid of that stuff we could get him more clothes.

How does he look at one set of kids and think " let's get them as much as possible" and then look at another set of his kids and think"how little can we get away with". Just makes me really sad that that's how he perceived things. I almost started crying when he said that so I did t even bring up the disparity between the skids and our bios.

Then the other thing that happened this weekend is that we filed taxes. As we were discussing what to do with our refund the topic of bs-9months first birthday came up. I When we previously discussed this I wanted to fly up north to my family for his party like we did for bs3 and he wanted to take a family weekend away to a kids hotel and go to a water park. Tonight He mentions the cost of flying all of us up north is huge (and it is) and that ss and SD don't deserve a week of being spoiled by my family. And that they also don't deserve a trip to the water park hotel. I say that I agree with him that they don't deserve nice trips with their behavior, but that everyone else is continually punished because of them. We don't get to do anything as a family because they don't ever behave. Long story short, I will be flying up with bs3 and the baby for his birthday. Dh will stay home with ss and SD. I don't even get to celebrate my sons first birthday with my husband, his father because the skids chose to constantly act like assholes.