For the longest time, Dh didn't believe me about what little turds his kidd were when he wasn't around. He thought I was exaggerating or being overly hard on them. He seems to finally be aknowledging their issues.

This morning I was taking ss-almost 11, Sd9.5 and bs-3 to daycare/school. The skids are already not allowed to talk in my car this week because of fighting that gets out of control. So we get to the daycare and I get bs3 out of his seat and walk in. I left the door open behind me, as the skids should have been right behind me. I am at the front counter signing them in the book and the two of them lose it. Screaming at each other out next to mycar. Apparently one of them knocked a toy out of the car on the way out. Niether would take reaponsibilty, and neither would just pick it u p. So they just stood there screaming at each other, being nasty as can be.

The daycare lady is standing behind the counter with her mouth open in complete shock and disbelief. I hand her BS, and got back outside. I make them both pick it up together (since I don't know who actually kicked it out of the car) and give them 'the look'. SS appears chastised, SD just give me her attitude stank face. I kiss BS good bye and immediately call Dh when I got back in the car.

I told him exactly what happened and made sure to mention that Ms. xXX saw the whole thing and was appauld. He then calls the daycare and spoke to each of them. Of coarse neither took any sort of reaponsibilty and completely blamed the other. Dh said that he told them that when he gets home from work at midnight, he's waking them both up to deal with their behavior.
He actually goes: yeah Ms XXX knee right what I was calling about. As soon as I said who I was she asked which one I wanted to speak to first. No shit Dh, everyone else sees how out of control these kids are but you!

But, to be fair, they do behave much better when they are around him. He even said to SD, now SD, if I was there instead of mommy, what would you have done? You'd have just picked it up right?......yes. And I think that's the most frustrating part.....they do it on purpose. It's not that they don't know how tovbehave orbdont know right from wrong....mthey just chose not to when they are with me. It's intentional. Dh goes: man its like a bell goes off and they are just waiting for it to act like assholes with you. Ya THINK? That's only what I've been saying for years now.