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Drives me crazy that he just never notices

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 6:53am

SD was, yet again, out of uniform for school today. Did dh notice? Nope. I bought this kid two weeks worth of uniforms and its only Thursday so she has plenty to chose from.... But she was dressed in a T-shirt and a short skirt for school this morning. How on earth dh doesn't catch these things is beyond me. Or maybe he does see and chooses to ignore so he doesn't have to correct the princess.

She goes to school out of uniform multiple times each week....sometime she doesn't wear a single uniform for entire week at a time. No one says anything. I've been at the school and seen kids sent to the office for being out of uniform, so I don't understand why we never get a call from the school. Or maybe dh does and just doesn't tell me. Or, most likely, she has spun some sob story to her teacher about how mean step mommy did this nor that and she had no uniforms.

Nevermind that I went out of my way to get her nice stylish name brand uniforms. Her uniforms are Ralph Lauren. Can I afford clothes like that? Hell no. But I found a really good sale and decided to do something nice for her. They came out only a few dollars more expensive for each piece than the normal uniforms....but a few dollars per piece times ten sets came out to an extra 80 bucks. But that's apparently not good enough.....SD needs to be even more special and be the only one wearing street clothes while all the other little girls are in polos and kakhis.

I kept my mouth shut....calling her out does me no good. Dh doesn't care, the school doesn't care, she doesn't care. Just drives me crazy that she manages to manipulate everyone around her into accepting that the rules just don't apply to her.

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 7:08am

Yep, I am done now. No more clothes of any kind d from me unless I want to as a gift. I typically buy all the clothes for all the kids because I can find it much cheaper than dh. I will check for sales and stack coupons so I can get the clothes for a fraction of the retail cost. Dh would just walk into the store and buy whatever SD said she wanted and then not have money for bills that week because he crazy overspent.

I don't buy the Walmart stuff anymore because it never lasts all year and then I end up spending more to replace it midyear when its really hard to find. I found a really good deal on the Ralph Lauren stuff and it was super cute compared to the regular brand stuff. I had a admittedly stupid moment and decided to do something nice for her...and to be honest I thought it would get me some brownie points with dh. But no more. I am done now. Dh is on his own clothing his children from now on. Not just because of this issue....but my efforts are taken for granted by all and I am sick of it. Bought each skid s really nice outfit that I found on sale. 50+ dollars a piece normally but I picked each outfit up for 12. I showed him and he just nodded and said to save then for their trip to mils this summer. No thank you, no appreciation at all. So I am done.

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 7:44am

Yeah, I like the hunt Smile which is kind of surprising because I don't really care what I wear myself and very rarely buy myself clothes. But I love hi ting for good deals on the kids clothes. Bs3s wardrobe is all brand named clothes that I get for less than Walmart prices.

I'm glad you understand the thrill of the hunt. Dh doesn't get why I am so excited when I walk out of Gymboree with a full outfit and matching accessories for 9 dollars. He thinks I'm nuts.

My natural tendency is to want to do for people, so this disengaging is hard for me. But I am doing my best to keep my mouth shut....and just vent my frustrations here.

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Submitted by whatwasithinkin on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 7:13am

oh this is a bone of contention at my house too. she walks right by DH and he says nothing!

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 7:22am

Its not just the clothes thing..... He never notices ANYTHING. Doesn't notice that they go over a week in between showers, doesn't notice when they are fooling around at the table and its 40 minutes into dinner and they haven't taken a bite. He doesn't notice them screaming at each other fighting. He just seems completely oblivious to everything g they do....but is on the ball with when bs3 does stuff. How is it he can hear the whine in bs3s voice but doesn't hear the crazy disrespect in the skids?

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 8:10am

That's what I've seen happen to other kids....so I am perplexed by how SD gets away with it. She's a big storyteller/liar so I believe she must have told some sob story to her teacher and the teacher feels sorry for her.

I used to walk the skids into school everyday and any time a kids was out of uniform they were immediately sent to the office to have a parent called. But SD manages crap like this all the time....where somehow the rules just don't apply to her.

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Submitted by PeanutandSons on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 8:49am

If dh doesn't care enough to question her at home, he's certainly not going to make the effort to call the school to see why she isn't getting in trouble.

That would be seen as me being the evil sm who hates his daughter and I am making problems where there is none trying to get his sweet innocent daughter in trouble.

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Submitted by kathc on Thu, 04/04/2013 - 10:45am

I'd call the school and tell them that SD has been wearing street clothes to school, you didn't think that was allowed, but you wanted to check if they've changed policy since they hadn't called about it. }:)