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SS10 locked me out of bathroom b/c...is Jealous of me????

Optimistic Soon to Be Step Mom's picture

SS10 wouldn't get out of bathroom when I had to go. Was doing it on purpose. BF pulled him out and gave him a good yelling--asked SS what is the matter and why he would do such a thing. SS called BM and told her he doesn't like me. Great. She must have loved to hear that..BF has told me she is jealous of me. Anyway.

BF asked SS why he doesn't like me.. asked SS if I was mean to him or anything and he said no. Then SS said he doesn't like me becaues when I am there it's like his dad "doesn't even look at him."

I thought only girls did this. *sigh*

Any advice on how to proceed with SS10? I recently have taken to just ignoring him/disengaging the past few months...I used to take him everywhere, buy him stuff, shoes, movies, ice cream treats etc. but he has recently becoming more and more jealous around me and refusing to listen to anything I say, especially since I moved in with dad.

Could it be mom is feeding this crap in his head? She used to get mad when he would just mention my name to her and told BF I am nobody to tell her kids what to do...right..even when I am babysitting them for you?? WTH?

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shielded2009's picture

What does SO do with his son when he's around? What do they talk about?

We went through this on 2 separate occasions, once when I came into the picture and then when DS was born...

SD started acting out even more trying to get attention. DH started actually spending time with her (rather than plopping her in front of the TV) and started actually talking to her *shockers*...She got better...

DH didn't allow her to intrude or show out and do "attention getting" antics, he'd shut that down immediately...but he was lacking in the spending time with his kid department...

Optimistic Soon to Be Step Mom's picture

Hmm..good point...I did suggest to BF giving SS more one on one time. Good to know that worked for you so I'm going to push him to do it more so SS wont be so resentful.

Lauren1438's picture

yep one on one it works! My FDH talkes one of the girls some where why I watch the other then after a few hours we swap. Usually on Saturdays and Sunday everyone is together. It gives me a time to bond with my soon to be step daughters and they love the time they get with their dad all to themselves.