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onebright1's picture

I am so glad I got my daughter and myself out of that goat flip. We are so much happier in our own place Biggrin
SO visits me at my home and I sporadically visit him at his home when sgirls are not around usually Wink
SO and I just returned from an Epic trip to Vegas and Grand Canyon. WE are doing ok, He and his goat flip family and nuttburger EX are not.
Just for your reading enjoyment I thought I would share what is new with the sgirls.

SD20(21 in 2 mos) is in her jr year at the state university. Lives in an apt with her boyfriend from HS. Drives car SO purchased for her and carries insurance and plates it for her. She comes to see him a couple times a year when car is in need of repairs.

SD 17 is a HS Senior in her private (paid for solely by SO) school. She left BM's at the end of Jr year and stayed with SO's parents for a couple weeks until BM threw a fit and said she had to go live with SO or she(bm) would call her SD17 in as a runaway. SD17 moved in with SO and yep, BM called her in as a runaway anyway, BM called the school, went psycho on school counselor and social worker. BM sent text to SD17 that she "will F#*k your life up little girl" and the counselor and social worker from school saw these text.

SD17 stayed with SO til end of Jr year and up til July, then moved back to her mom when BM kicked out SD15 and dropped SD15 off at SO's work at 10pm on July 7th with a garbage bag of clothes and mismatched shoes.
BM then bought SD17 a new iphone and begged her to come back (which she did) cause she needed a sitter for the rest of the summer for her illegitimate twins with the married guy she was dating in 2012.

Anyhow, SO now has SD15 who btw is pregnant ( which is why I suspect BM dumped her on SO, because SD15 refused to do what BM wanted her too and decided she is keeping her child) SO has to go to the private catholic school and they are going to let SD15 continue on there and make accomodations for her. But they had to notify cps because it turns out the boyfriend is 20 yrs old. SO files for emergency hearing for custody of SD15.

Fast fwd from July to now and SO actually won(dunno if I'd call that a win) custody of SD17(who wont move back to him) and SD15,Because it was brought to SO's attention that BM was letting the boyfriend20 spend the nite with SD15 in order to get her to agree to babysitting, AND BM was using SD15 as her personal bartender to make her Jager Bombs and such. SO had all the incriminating text printed out from SD15s phone(regarding boyfriend) and His phone(bm rants about how she is giving him the evil brat bla bla bla) the judge would have given him stwins 11 if he had worded it correctly on the motion. Now he has to file another motion to get them.

The newest and latest info is SO and SD15 got called to police station because the boyfriend got picked up in a stolen from a burglary van and there were letters and an ultrasound photo in the van from SD15. Turns out the guy may be 28, Police are trying to find out his real name, he is a refugee from South Africa, has two other girls pregnant now too. AND had a warrant for the burglary with an injury cause by a knife, and they have been looking for him for a while.....
Life time movie material, huh?

So so so glad I got out of that home.. SO is in complete shock by all of this. He shouldn't be, he knows how and who his EX is.

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WalkOnBy's picture

okay, wait, did I read this right????

"the judge would have given him stwins 11 if he had worded it correctly on the motion. Now he has to file another motion to get them."

your SO wants the twins that don't belong to him but rather the married dude that BM slept with back in 2013???

:jawdrop:

onebright1's picture

Hereiam is correct. SO has twins with BM, She had other set 3 yrs ago with a married guy.

onebright1's picture

Yes, she has two sets. AND gave the new set SO's last name cause "she wanted the same last name as all her kids" (say that in a deep deep whiney man voice LOL) But hey guess what ? she just remarried on July 4th so she has a different last name anyhow :O

WalkOnBy's picture

Wait, she gave the second set of twins the last name of your SO? How can she even do that??? Wouldn't she have to name to father (married dude) on the BC or if unwilling to do that, wouldn't they have her last name??

I would flip my shit if some random set of kids was walking around with my husband's last name.

onebright1's picture

When she gave birth to them she still had SOs last name. Married dude wanted to give them his name but she offered to forego $1200 in back support because "whaaaa, I want all my kids to have my last name and I FREAKIN earned that last name"
I think her last name should be nuttburger, but no one will listen to me Wink

Rags's picture

Sounds to me that what is left is the run to get all of the Skids to 18yo to minimize the risk they represent to your world and family. STwins? Can you clarify. Are these your DH's or GSkids or what?

Good luck with these bottom feeders of the shallow and polluted end of the blended family oppostion gene pool.

You and Dh take care of yourselves and each other.

onebright1's picture

Rags, Thankfully he is not my DH, We lived together for 3 years starting about a year after we met. I moved into my own place after BM sent CPS to us 3 times. The environment was not where I wanted my BD11 to be.
He and I are still together, but no marriage, (I love the guy, but um hell no, am not a stupid lady)
SO as 5 daughters with Nuttburger, the youngest are twins 11 almost 12.
Someday when all kids are grown and gone, SO and I will try again with the living arrangements, but for now, this works for me Smile

notsobad's picture

I get that you love him, and he may be Mr. wonderful BUT you do understand that even once they are grown they won't ever be gone.

SD15 is pregnant, she and that baby aren't going anywhere for a long time! Shes going to be dependant on Daddy, don't be surprised if she never launches.
The twins are 11, so that's what 7 - 8 - 10 years you're willing to wait to live with the man you want to spend your life with?

I hope you can make it work if that's what you really want.

onebright1's picture

Oh I am not waiting, I am living my life and enjoying it. I of all people know how short it can be. If he wants to hang out and enjoy with me he can. If things change in 7-8-10 years then YAY, if not, I will be living and enjoying my life still. I don't have to live with him to love him.
It may sound selfish, but I put him first and tried like hell, Same old story you hear on here over and over, I got no where., Now my daughter and I are first.
I truly am happy and he has a full plate right now. Moving out disengaged me from the sgirls and the crazy and BM. Not from him.
I am sure if we broke up I would be sad, but hey, Ive been sadder for a lot better reason....

notsobad's picture

I'm happy to hear that.
I would hate to think that you might meet someone who could really be part of your life and you pass him by because you are waiting for this guy.

notsobad's picture

So, BM has 5 kids with SO, 3 daughters 21, 17, 15 and a set of 11 year old twins. Then 3 year old twins with a married guy, but gave them SOs last name because it was her name too at the time of birth?

Now, she's married to a new guy and has his name?

Top that off, SD 15 is pregnant and the father, who might be 20 - 28, is a fugitive and has impregnated 2 other women that you know of?

This guy had better hang on to you because there isn't another woman who would touch him with a 10 foot pole! How did you ever miss all these red flags??

onebright1's picture

yep, that's exactly correct.
When we got together the twins were kindergardeners at the same school as my bd11.
I seriously thought BM would calm down, but last year I gave up and moved out.
I try and shelter my daughter from harsh and crazy, and as bad as I thought it was when
I lived with him, This is much worse, So happy to not be living this, I only hear about now Wink
thankfully am not part of it Biggrin

Stepmom09's picture

:jawdrop: :jawdrop: wow

new to this's picture

I know you love him but I would have to break all ties with that crazy. That man has 5 daughters, he will never be free really to give you a good life and put you first. He has a 15 yo that is fixing to have a baby, he will be raising that child now. Sometimes love is just not enough....

onebright1's picture

I agree, that is why I don't live with him. Like I said ^^up there, If it works out then YAY, but I am fine living alone with my daughter and He can concentrate on his kids and me on mine. One day at a time. Things and situations change so quickly, I am not willing to say never or always at this point.

onebright1's picture

You would have to be blind to not see it going this way even back then.... And truthfully, If it weren't for Steptalk, I may not have seen it coming. Just didn't know what "it" was going to be :O