We had the baby! Not without BM drama of course

Our baby girl was born on September 30, 2008. She was 7lb 4oz and 20.5 inches long. She's absolutely gorgeous and a complete doll.

So we were in the hospital that day and BM called BF literally when I was IN LABOR. He, of course, did not pick up (if he had I would have killed him!). He got an email from her claiming she needed to talk to him about SS's visitation that weekend at 4:34 PM which was literally 4 minutes after our daughter was born. He responded when he got a minute and said, "Sorry, I'm really busy right now but I'll get back to you tomorrow." Seeing as it was Tuesday, and visitation didn't start until Friday, he figured that would be sufficient. BM knew we had an appointment that day with my OBGYN and would probably be having our daughter that day...so of course she couldn't keep herself from starting drama. She responded back to say, "Well I can see how important our SON is to you! Don't even bother!" Uh, excuse me? Look bitch, we're in the hospital having a baby, your petty emails with your new excuse of the week about not wanting SS to come for visitation can wait a few hours! Then BF stepped out of the room a couple hours after BD was born to talk to BM and she started bitching at him about not responding to her email. She tried to play dumb like she didn't know exactly where he was without him having to tell her. Yeah right, she probably already knew my room number. He said you know what, I was a little busy holding back Nymh's leg and watching my daughter come into the world so your emails can wait a few more hours! She said, "Well screw you!" and hung up. Then she sent him an email talking about how this was not about me or our daughter, this was about her and their son so for him not to try to say that she was jealous and lashing out. Then she sent another email telling him not to contact her again.

Obviously our daughter being born is a major malfunction in BM's life - of course we knew it would be. It's sad, really.

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If I were you I think I'd be

If I were you I think I'd be pissed he even stepped out of the room to call her back! Screw her, I wouldn't want any contact with her on the day your baby was born. She is jealous and she wants to make sure she is still important enough to get a rise out of him. I would just completely ignore her.

Congrats Nymh

on your baby girl, and blessings to your family. Of course the news of your baby so bluntly put to the BM was a bucket of cold water in her face, are you sure insted of saying to DH on the phone: "well screw you" she was'ent screaming "I'm melting.....I'm melting....oh what a world!!!""~waiting on the world to change~"

Welcome Baby!!!

Congratulations to you, Nymh and DH!! notice I left BM out of that at least! What a weirdo she is to think you want to play some stupid game when you had much better things to do, then and from now on!!! Hope your mommyhood is smooth, let us know!!

"A lie told often enough becomes the truth." - Vladimir Lenin

Thank you

Thank you to everyone for the congratulations and well-wishes. We're having so much fun being a new type of little family. I'm really excited about how our baby girl grows and develops.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

Also...

I forgot to mention, I got an email from BM on the night BD was born saying congratuations to me and our baby, and she asked me to send her pictures. I told BF that and he laughed and commented that it was kind of weird and a little messed up for someone's ex wife to want pictures of his baby with the new wife. I agree. In her email she said to me that she thought she had made BF mad with her emails and phone calls. I responded to say thank you for the congratulations and that she did make him mad and I understood why, she was really out of line. I didn't mention the pictures. She hasn't emailed me back.

*~So sayeth Nymh~*

Nymh~ congrats to you, your DH and the new Sibs

You have now given even more focus to the well being of children in your family. Good for you and DH. I am sure that your Skid(s) will embrace their little sister. Unfortunately that will probably just drive the XW more in to the whacky side of the things.

My SS has three younger half siblings on his SpermDad's side of the blended family. He is very close to them and all four of them have a pretty good relationship as far as I can tell from my SS's stories.

He gets very frustrated with his SpermDad and his SpermGrandMa over how they interface with his sibs. We do not ridicule, yell, secream or slap/smack our son and we try very hard to treat him in a manner appropriate to his age and include him in much of the discussion and analysis for family decision making. Apparently in SpermLand there is much screaming and yelling and letting the TV/video games babysit the younger three kids.

The difference in how they attempt to treat him when he is there compared to how he is treated in our home bothers him. That his sibs have never seen a better situation really bothers him. During visitation we get periodic calls from SpermDad/SpermGrandMa that he (my SS) is being disrespectful to them usually when he informs them that he does not think what they are doing is a good idea or when he disappears to a quiet place to retreat from the chaos that is apparently prevalent in SpermLand. We usually just ask them what happened then tell them that we will speak to him about it but that they may want to look at what is going on around him (SS) that is influencing him to act the way he is acting.

With the addition of your precious child maybe your Skid(s) will start taking a better way with them when they are with the XW. You can only hope.

Anyway, good luck. I am confident that your little girl will bring a whole new level of family closeness between you, DH and your Skid(s).

Congratulations and best regards,

CONGRATS!!!!!

I am so happy for you!

A precious little girl...

I am so excited for you and DH!!!! I remember each time I had mine I would be amazed that I had helped create such a beautiful little baby...their cute toes, fingers...little noses...OH BOY...can you tell I just love babies...LOL?

Enjoy this perfect little bundle of joy!! Hugs!

Good job with the email back

Good job with the email back to her! Ha! Serves her right.

Outstanding!

Here's to years of joy with your little girl!

CONGRATULATIONS

That's fantastic news (about the birth of your beautiful baby girl not BM). If it makes you feel any better when BF and I finally have our first child BM is going to be exactly like yours if not 10 times worse. BM's like to be number 1 priority all the time, so she is just jealous that she not and never will be.

Enjoy all the precious moments with your new baba, BM isn't worth even a thought during this beautiful time in your life.

What an idiot.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley