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Nymh's picture

Turns out I was right about why SS doesn't want to go to school. A couple of months ago when BM, BF and I had that emergency pow-wow with SS and BM informed us that he was missing an average of one day a week, I told BF that I thought someone was picking on SS at school. We've asked him several times between now and then, and he denied that anyone was being mean to him while continuing to miss more and more school. He missed an entire week two weeks ago, and after BM took him to the doctor last week and nothing was wrong, she finally decided something was up. He tried to say that he had a headache a couple of days last week and didn't want to go to school, but she made him anyway. After two days of that, he finally threw another huge fit and said he had a migraine and wasn't going to school. She took him with her to her doctor's appointment that day (so he missed two days of school last week, on top of the entire week before that he missed) and on the way he finally broke down and admitted that there was a kid in his class that was picking on him. She asked why he hadn't said anything or told the teacher, and of course he said what all kids say, "I don't know..." She told him that since he waited so long and it's gotten so out of hand, that she was taking him to talk to the principal. SS wasn't too happy about that, but they went anyway. SS has been going to school since then, and BM says that it seems like a weight has been lifted off of SS's shoulders, and he's in a much better mood when he gets home from school than he has been.

I'm so glad that this finally got straightened out. I was worried about SS.

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Colorado Girl's picture

My son was suffering at the hands of a couple mean kids himself. Once I intervened and gave him a couple good comebacks to their taunting, they cut it out pretty quick. I allowed him to try and resolve the matter, but my next step would have been a visit to an administrator.

I'm glad that it worked itself out.

"For every ailment under the sun....There is a remedy, or there is none;
If there be one, try to find it; If there be none, never mind it." ~ W.W. Bartley

Elizabeth's picture

My BD is 4 and while she's not being bullied, she is being picked on at school. I thought this would wait until at least kindergarten, if not much older!

Seems there is a little clique of three girls in her preschool(!) who are into Hannah Montana. My daughter also likes her, but I don't let her watch much and we don't own ANY merchandise. Hence the problem. BD mentioned a couple of weeks ago that these girls only let you play with them if you have or are wearing something Hannah Montana. Can you believe that?

So, when BD went to the dentist she got two Hannah Montana stickers, which she put on her leg. These girls let her play with them at recess but would not let her sit with them because the stickers weren't "cool enough" I guess (my words). My husband bought BD a Hannah Montana shirt that night! So she could wear it to school the next day.

Sure enough, the girls let her sit with them. So BD comes home that night and announces she needed MORE Hannah Montana stuff. I said no and tried to explain that the kids who were her friends and the ones she should play with are the ones who never cared what clothes she was wearing. So BD informed me she was wearing the Hannah Montana shirt to school EVERY DAY.

Can you believe it?!

Glad your SS has worked this out, but I wouldn't imagine this is the end of it. If you let yourself be picked on, it will continue.

Elizabeth's picture

I work full time and don't transport BD to or from daycare. So my exposure is very minimum. My first instinct was to talk to the teacher (they let the kids pick where they want to sit). But I also feel like it won't hurt BD too much to deal with this now. I am torn. Of course I don't want her to be excluded for any reason, and it is within my means to buy her more Hannah Montana stuff. I just don't like the message that sends. School is almost over, so I was kind of letting her ride it out. Do you think I should bring it to the teacher's attention?