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Teens - you got to love them

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Submitted by not engaged on Tue, 07/15/2014 - 8:35pm

Teens you gotta love them or you just might kill them Smile

"The kid" (SO's term) came over Sunday to watch the soccer game. Since we painted the trim on the shed in the early am when it was cooler, I went grocery shopping later in the day. When I left SO told me that when I got back he'd help me bring the groceries in the house. He always does this but he specifically stated it out loud. I happily left "the boys" watching the soccer game.

When the soccer game was over, the kid jumped up and said "let's go". "Let's go where?" asked SO. The kid - "You are taking me to the mall." Somehow "I may be going to the mall later" became SO will drive him to the mall immediately after the game and pick him up at 10 pm after the movie. SO agreed to take him IF he could prove he had a ride home. That was arranged quickly. SO said that they would leave after I got home and the groceries were unloaded. Well the kid's response "She can handle it herself". SO agreed that I could but 1. He had told me that he would help me and 2. Since I buy the food (I do buy most of the food and I find grocery shopping strangely relaxing) the LEAST he could do was help me unload the car.

This resulted in pacing, "Did I hear a car door?" and "Why do women take so long shopping?" When I got home, SO told the kid to help unload the groceries. The response was "NO". Well THAT didn't sit so well. He told the kid "You eat it! You WILL help carry it in the house." SO made him wait a while longer while SO helped unpack some things - with the kid hovering (he always hovers) and then off they went. SO told me about this when he got back.

SO seems to get some pleasure out of knocking down the "tude" he often comes back with after a stay at BM's and we often laugh over the kids attempts to be "cool". Teenagers!

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Submitted by Just J on Tue, 07/15/2014 - 8:56pm

Awesome that your SO didn't just take him and bail on you like so many Disney dads do! Sounds like you got a good guy. The teen years suck but with parents that step up it is definitely more bearable.

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Submitted by not engaged on Wed, 07/16/2014 - 5:41am

SO says he is not supposed to be the kids friend. He is his parent. BM is more concerned with the kid liking her. I had the same issue in my marriage - I had to be the heavy and XH could never say no. It was one of the things that contributed to the divorce. It happens in intact families as well but maybe not so much. I know that SO appreciates what I do around here and I'm glad that he stated it to the kid.

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Submitted by hangingbyathread6 on Tue, 07/15/2014 - 9:20pm

I love that your SO stood up for you, however, as I was reading and read the "NO" part and that then he had to help unload, I was waiting for the scene you were going to describe that occurred when your SO told the boy that he wouldn't be getting a ride to the mall either because of his disrespectful attitude towards both you and your SO.

Again, LOVE that So stood up for you, but my kid or skid would have been out of a trip to the mall also!

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Submitted by not engaged on Wed, 07/16/2014 - 5:34am

I agree and that would have been my response if he were my kid. SO's not perfect but better than many.