Conversation with BMs finding out the whole truth about cheating dumbass
Yep I actually called BMs 1 and 2 because I wanted to know what really happened between them and DH. I have no proof that they told me the truth but going through what DH has put me through I am inclined to believe them. So this is what went down.
*ring ring*
BM2: Hello what do you want DH SS10 is at school
ME: No its newbie
BM2: why the f*ck are you calling me is DH ok?
ME: * trying to hold back sniffle*
BM2: What happened? Did he get in an accident? Are you crying?
ME: He left me
BM2: wooooooow wow let me guess he cheated with some bimbo?
ME: Yeah he cheated. I know you don't want to talk to me but I have to know. I have to know if he ever told me the truth.
BM2: Truth about what
ME: He told me you were a one night stand
BM2: wow what a piece of ....oh I wanna smack the sh*t one night stand my ass. We were together for 6 months and then I found out he had a threesome with some bimbo slutty bitch and another guy. So they like tag teamed this girl and bragged about it. When I told him about his-self he called me a bitch and ugly and he denied ever being wit me. Told his friends I was a crazy b*tch obsessed with him because he gave me the d*ck one good time. When I found out I was pregnant he kept on callin me a slut and a trash bag hoe saying SS10 wont his I had to get a damn DNA test. He didn't even try to contact me for years just paid his child support and never looked back until I came into town then he wanna be a daddy all of a sudden.
ME: Wow are you freaking serious? HE told me you withheld visitation and left the state and he couldn't find you for years.
BM2: My ass wow. I called his ass when SS10 was little like every f*cking week and he would just hang up and tell me to leave him alone.
ME: wow. Thank you for telling me the truth
BM2: Don't take his ass back. I might don't like you but you don't deserve that k.
ME: Ok thanks
BM2: Well Ima get my nails done bye.
Call to BM1
*ring ring ring ring*
BM1: heeeeeeeeeey
ME: Hey I
BM1: Oh bye
ME: wait I need to talk to you
BM1: make it quick
ME: Why did you and DH break up?
BM1: huh? Are you trying to start sh*t?
ME: No he um he left
BM1: OMG I never thought he would leave you, you’re like pretty and smart and you’re not his normal type so I thought for sure.
ME: did he cheat on you?
BM1: No but he was controlling he deleted every guy off my Facebook and he wouldn't let me wear what I wanted to wear. He use to smoke with me but call me a pot head and a drunk when he drank more than I did. He actually use to shoot up before I met him. He gave me my first shot and when I got hooked he got clean and took our baby and then turned around calling me a druggie. He use to throw shit at me and scream in my face. He put me down all the time. I just left I couldn't take it no more. Then he got custody of SS5 * crying* and took my baby from me.
ME: Really? He told me he smoked weed back in college but I never thought. OMG * crying*.
BM1: Leave his ass and don’t look back and don't let him take your baby.
ME: Thanks I gotta go
BM1: I been clean for a few months now I'm a good mom
ME: Ok well
BM1: you can call this number if you need to talk again just ask for me
ME: Ok thanks
So yeah they could have been lying to me but I doubt it. I texted DH and told him I talked to the BMs. He text me back to f*ck off because I'm just another whore and he doesn't know why he keeps getting with the wrong women. I also told him if he wants a war he has one because I won’t give up custody without a fight. He actually said whatever just take custody and f*ck off. I didn't marry this man or at least I didn't think I did. I’m not crying anymore and I know I sound crazy but I still love him and I miss him. I know he isn't the man I thought he was and I can't take him back but I don't understand why I still love this asshole. I want to rid my heart of him. I stayed up last night in disbelief and I just kep thinking this is not my life how could I have fallen for his sh*t.
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We can't just turn our
We can't just turn our emotions on and off so don't beat yourself up saying you still love him.
You will rid him of your heart. Just keep telling yourself, "I deserve more" "I'm worth more" "He's a fucking asshole"
You'll be OK.
Don't become friendly with the other two BMs. Fight for custody and get everything you can from that jackass.
So, there is a multi-year
So, there is a multi-year history of this guy emotionally and psychologically mind f*ucking women in his life and a 10+ year history of being a serial cheater.
So, take yourself to the doctor, get tested for every STD out there. Go file for divorce and run dont walk in the opposit direction of this moron.
You already KNOW your DH lies and cheats and gas lights you.
You now have confirmation from two other women he has done similar (or worse) to them.
The prince charming you met and married was a facade meant to lure you in. You bit into the hook line and sinker and it hurt.
Fighting your way off the hook is also going to hurt. Your going to open a bigger wound so the barbs come loose... in the end... the wound will heal.
And you will know better what kind of worms to avoid.
I would suspect that BMs are
I would suspect that BMs are telling the truth, I mean what would they have to gain at this point by lying? I find it hilarious how this guy actually acts like he is the victim here "don't know why I keep getting with the wrong women?" Dude, you are the asswipe, you are the common denominator. How about look in your own back yard.
The scary thing is there is without a doubt some unsuspecting woman out there who is going to fall for his shit hook line and sinker. God help her!
"he had a threesome with some
"he had a threesome with some bimbo slutty bitch and another guy"
*major side eye at this*
"He actually use to shoot up before I met him"
WHAT IN THE ENTIRE HELL?!?!??!
Honey, you should be thanking the high heavens that you are out of this situation!
Please take this information and get the closure you need to focus on yourself. You will be ok and you will make it through this storm.
I'm tired of being in the eye
I'm tired of being in the eye of this storm and I'm tired of hurting. And I'm tired of loving him. WTF is wrong with me. part of me wants to believe that its not true and the man I loved would never do those things. I will move on. I just want to scream and stab something.
He's a good actor. You are in
He's a good actor. You are in love with the CHARACTER he played. Not the real him.
I know and I keep telling
I know and I keep telling myself that. I just think back on all of the good times and then realize it was all a lie. wow just thinking that makes me mad. How could he hurt someone who loves him. How can he use and destroy people and move on with his life and leave a trail of dispair in his wake. How could he make me all of the promise and tell me he doesn't lie and he would never cheat and turn around to be the exact opposite. How dare he use me and make me feel like I was special to him.
He did it for the same
He did it for the same reasons he has always had. He gets something out of it. His reward is in fooling you, and by the thrill of hiding his activities from you, the tingle of maybe getting caught while he's lying. Sociopathic behavior. Con man behavior. No other person is real to him. You exist to give him what he wants, no other reason.
Newbie, it's not your husband
Newbie, it's not your husband that you love. It's the Fantasy Man you created out of your hopes and dreams, with a little bit of con man deception making it really easy. Men like him count on being believed without questions, and count on taking advantage of every bit of love they can steal. He's a thief. He stole your trust and stomped on it. I'm glad you found out who he REALLY is. Now you have to take the steps necessary to get free, and heal. You won't be fooled so easily again.